Back in my middle school days, I had a surprising crush on a pop icon—let’s say it was someone like George Vega. At the time, before he publicly came out, I foolishly believed I had a chance. Fast forward to today, and I think about how I used to sing along to his suggestive tracks without a second thought. Now, as a parent, I often find myself questioning, “What were our parents thinking?”
These days, we have artists like Rihanna, who croon about “loving the smell of sex,” while I’m anxiously switching the radio to avoid having our kindergartener belt out those lyrics at family gatherings. It’s a slippery slope, and these little moments of cultural exposure can feel overwhelming.
As I don my “parental lenses,” or what I fondly call “mommy goggles,” I notice that things that once seemed innocent have transformed into alarming influences that could potentially harm my children’s well-being. Take Miley Cyrus, for instance—her antics serve as a cautionary tale for parents everywhere.
The unsettling realities revealed through these lenses begin much earlier than expected. I once thought children’s shows like “Charlie and Friends” and “Benny the Bunny” were harmless educational tools. Yet having a preschooler has turned those charming characters into shady figures promoting tantrums and disrespect. It’s not “Real Housewives,” but once you start looking closely, the disquieting details become glaringly obvious.
And then there’s the Disney Channel, which I once considered a bastion of wholesome entertainment. Now, those shows seem filled with snippy, materialistic teens who treat their parents and peers with blatant disrespect. Although many remember Hannah Montana as a sweet girl, her behavior wasn’t exactly exemplary.
During a family gathering, I found myself watching a Disney show with my nieces and nephews—rated TV-Y7. A teenage boy was seen making out with a girl in a diner, and after his friend interrupted, he casually dismissed her with a line about having bought her a soda. I was taken aback. How is this kind of content acceptable for kids? Many children watch these shows without any adult supervision, trusting the Disney brand. But every time I catch a glimpse, I feel the urge to shield my kids from the world and subject them to the comforting familiarity of “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood.”
Sometimes, I recognize that my mommy goggles are simply a manifestation of my fears and concerns. I worry about how pop culture might shape my children’s values. I fret over media influences and the constant barrage of consumerism. The thought that my efforts to teach them discernment could be drowned out by the relentless noise of society is daunting. I fear my kids might choose to embrace the superficial allure of celebrity culture instead.
While I know it’s impossible to shield them from every negative influence, I also don’t think that’s the goal. Just as children need to play in dirt to build their immune systems, they must encounter some unhealthy elements to learn how to navigate the world. But I still wonder if I should occasionally remove those mommy goggles and indulge in some blissful ignorance.
Yet, caution seems wiser. My concerns aren’t baseless. I don’t trust the marketing strategies aimed at children, nor do I have faith in an entertainment industry that increasingly sexualizes youth. I certainly don’t trust corporations that exploit popularity to maximize profits without regard for the impact on young minds.
While we can’t completely eliminate these influences, we don’t have to welcome them into our homes. There’s a significant difference between managing minor leaks and facing a full-blown flood. Ensuring our kids are not left to fend for themselves while engaging with this media is essential. Conversations about critical thinking and discernment are key.
In our home, we’ve chosen to limit exposure to certain influences when our kids were younger. As they’ve grown, we watch and read things together, discussing the implications of what we consume. We talk about how media affects us on multiple levels—intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. We analyze the motivations behind marketing strategies and celebrity choices, and we engage in dialogue about specific shows and real-life scenarios.
Yet, worry is a constant companion. As I age, I know these mommy goggles will one day become Grandma Goggles. Who knows how they’ll perceive the world? Perhaps the celebrity antics of today will seem mild in comparison to what’s coming. Maybe I’ll learn that parental guidance outweighs external influences.
I hope so.
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Summary
Parenting in today’s media landscape can be overwhelming, as pop culture influences are often more pervasive than they seem. With concerns about the effects on children’s values and character, it’s essential to engage in open conversations about media consumption and critical thinking. While the urge to shelter children from negative influences exists, a balanced approach that includes discussions and shared experiences can help foster discernment as they navigate their world.