I never imagined that the carefree days of playing tag in the schoolyard would lead me to form lasting friendships with three remarkable women. Reflecting on our journey together, I often marvel at how we’ve managed to stay close through the years. Here are the key elements that have helped us nurture and sustain these incredible bonds over four decades:
- Send Notes: Back in elementary school, we were experts at writing notes, filled with our own secret codes. While we now rely on emails and texts, there was something special about those handwritten messages. A note from one of these girls today would evoke nostalgia, reminding us of simpler times.
- Master the Art of Note Folding: Only true friends can fold notes so tightly that they become nearly impossible for parents to open. We would stash our notes in our pockets to keep our secrets safe; losing one could reveal far too much about our crushes and gossip.
- Bike Rides: There’s something magical about riding bikes together, not just hitting the gym for a spinning class. Our fondest memories are from long bike rides, where we’d often hide behind trees to sneak a peek at cute boys. And of course, we always had to “borrow” a few dollars from our moms for treats.
- Sleepovers: The essence of a great sleepover was staying up all night, sharing stories and laughter. If anyone dared to fall asleep, we had our mischievous ways to keep things lively. Even now, certain songs transport me back to those nights filled with fun and friendship.
- Watch Scary Movies Together: Nothing solidifies a friendship like a shared fear. Who else would reassure you that Freddy Krueger isn’t real or run with you to the front door after a scary movie? Those nights were filled with screams and laughter, forging unbreakable bonds.
- Embrace the Ups and Downs: It’s normal to have disagreements. Fighting and making up can deepen your friendship, leading to heartfelt conversations and a better understanding of one another.
- Be There in Tough Times: When your friend is heartbroken, be the shoulder she can lean on. You know she would do the same for you. Sharing those moments makes your friendship even stronger.
- Celebrate Milestones: Attend each other’s weddings, shed happy tears, and embrace new family members. It’s important to respect not just your friend but also those closest to her.
- Support Each Other in Parenthood: As you both navigate the challenges of motherhood, be honest about your struggles. No parenting book can replace the support of a friend who is experiencing the same ups and downs.
- Offer Comfort in Grief: When your friend faces loss, be there to share in her sorrow. Your presence can be incredibly healing, reminding her she’s not alone.
- Stand by Them Through Divorce: When relationships end, provide a comforting presence. Engaging in a little gossip about the ex can help lighten the mood, but remember to be supportive of her journey to find love again.
- Welcome New Partners: If your friend remarries, befriend her new spouse. This inclusion strengthens your bond and helps everyone feel connected.
- Celebrate Their Kids: Take pride in your friend’s children and share parenting stories. Laughter and commiseration about parenting challenges can strengthen your friendship.
- Stay Connected: Use social media, texts, and visits to keep the friendship alive. Random messages can brighten your day and remind your friends how much they mean to you.
- Follow Up After Visits: After spending time together, let them know how much you enjoyed it. A few playful messages can keep the good vibes going, ensuring you make new memories together.
Through all the highs and lows, these friendships have become an unshakeable part of my life. Even when days go by without contact, we always know that when one of us reaches out, we’ll be there for each other without hesitation. They might not share my DNA, but they are just as much my family as anyone else.
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Summary
Cultivating lasting friendships takes effort, love, and a willingness to be there for one another through life’s challenges. From writing notes in childhood to supporting each other in adulthood, the bonds of friendship can withstand the test of time. Cherish these relationships, as they become your chosen family.