I’m genuinely pleased that my child is exploring the world of dating. After navigating a long and sometimes challenging journey toward maturity, it’s essential that we, as parents, don’t become possessive or controlling now that they’re beginning to establish their own personal life. We raised this wonderful individual not to be a trophy for us to admire but to engage with the world around them.
That said, I do have some hopes for the young person who wishes to date my child. While I know it may seem a bit presumptuous to create a list, a mother can dream, right? So, here’s what I hope to see in anyone interested in a relationship with my child:
Be Yourself
Authenticity is key. You should feel free to be your true self around my child, just as you are with your closest friends. There’s no need to put on a façade—whether that means being more serious, bubbly, intellectual, adventurous, or reserved. Just be you.
Honesty
This applies to everything that truly matters—your feelings, preferences, and desires. Honesty is vital, not just with my child but also with yourself.
Self-Confidence
Remember, you didn’t capture their attention based on looks alone. Embrace your natural beauty, even when you’re in comfy clothes. Let your true self shine through, especially on those days when you feel less than glamorous.
Self-Awareness
Take time to understand yourself better than anyone else. Know what makes you tick, what brings you joy, and where you excel or struggle. This relationship should enhance your identity, not define it.
Responsibility
Celebrate the times we live in, where you can pursue your passions freely. If you ever feel unhappy or constrained, remember that only you have the power to change your situation. Your happiness should always be your top priority, no matter how much you care for my child.
Realism
Life is long, and while new relationships are exhilarating, don’t let them overshadow all aspects of your life. Embrace the joy of being together, but also make time for your friends, hobbies, and priorities that existed before your paths crossed.
Patience
You’re both still young, and there isn’t a perfect manual for relationships. It’s normal to fall short of expectations at times. You’ll learn more about yourselves as you grow together. Twenty years down the line, you might look back on this advice and think, “Wow, that still holds true!”
I wish someone had shared these insights with me when I started dating. It’s easy to get lost in admiration for someone else and, in the process, lose sight of your own identity. Remember, you are far too valuable to change who you are just to gain someone’s attention. If you’re unsure, just ask those who love you—they will affirm your worth.
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Summary
This article offers guidance for young women interested in dating someone’s child, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, honesty, self-awareness, and balance in relationships. It encourages maintaining one’s identity and happiness while navigating love.