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Embracing Motherhood: A Journey of Self-Reflection
It’s often said that parenthood transforms you into a better person, but my experience has been quite the opposite. When I shared these feelings with my partner, he asserted that becoming a parent had improved both of us. I appreciate his optimism, but I see things differently.
Let me clarify: I’m not suggesting that I’ve turned into a terrible person or that I’m an unfit mother. I take pride in my parenting skills. However, certain aspects of my personality have become more pronounced since I welcomed my little one into the world. I often reflect on when I became so uptight, and the answer invariably leads back to motherhood.
I’ve always been a perfectionist and a bit of a control enthusiast. I set high expectations for myself and those around me. In my pre-mom life, this trait was manageable; I was the go-to planner among friends and a reliable coworker. I rarely felt the need to control others, as my leadership style was more about organizing activities than dictating choices. My wedding day was meticulously planned, and my honeymoon was filled with a detailed itinerary—something my partner appreciated, as it allowed him to relax and enjoy our adventures.
Now, however, my inclination to control has escalated dramatically. I find myself distancing from family members who smoke or hold beliefs I disagree with, fearing their influence on my child. It may seem extreme, but I can’t help it. Only my partner and I are allowed to drive with our daughter, and I often question the necessity of alone time with her. My instinct is to manage every interaction she has, every word spoken around her, and every experience she encounters.
Before motherhood, I prided myself on being tolerant and accepting. Now, I find myself more judgmental and less open-minded. Some might chalk this up to aging, but for me, it feels like a downside of parenthood. I once embraced the world’s diversity and accepted that everyone has the right to live according to their beliefs. Now, however, I struggle internally with the fear that outside influences might lead my daughter astray.
Other changes have crept in as well. I’m more sensitive now, prone to tears over the smallest things. I find myself feeling weighed down by negativity and worry more than ever. Questions about the world my child will inherit haunt me. While I realize many of these concerns are beyond my control, they only intensify my desire to manage what I can.
Motherhood has undoubtedly shaped me in many ways. It has opened my heart to a love deeper than I ever imagined. When my daughter faced major surgery, I discovered a reservoir of strength and courage I never knew I possessed. I’ve learned to appreciate the little joys in life and see the world anew through her eyes. My passion for teaching has reignited, as she is my most important student, and I find myself eager to learn alongside her.
Yet, despite all these transformations, I can’t say that becoming a mother has made me a better person. Nonetheless, I’m committed to working on myself and striving for growth.
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Summary
In reflecting on motherhood, I’ve come to terms with how it has amplified my personality traits, particularly my perfectionism and need for control. While it has enriched my life with love and strength, it has also introduced anxiety and judgment that I hadn’t experienced before. I am determined to work on becoming a better version of myself for my child.