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It’s Important to Recognize That You’re More Than Just a Mom
by Emily Carter
Updated: June 22, 2016
Originally Published: Oct. 13, 2015
For stay-at-home moms, it can be surprisingly easy to lose sight of your own identity. The unending demands of motherhood often leave little room for self-care or personal growth. A mother can excel in her parenting role while neglecting other aspects of her life, until one day the realization hits that she has drifted far from who she used to be.
When my husband, Mark, unexpectedly walked out after nine years of marriage, leaving me with two young children, well-meaning friends advised me to “just concentrate on the kids.” They thought that focusing solely on them would help me heal. But the truth was, I had always placed my children at the center of my world. I vividly remember a moment when Mark remarked that my sole identity was tied to being a mother. At the time, I dismissed his comment, thinking he simply didn’t understand me.
Looking back, I can see how my entire existence had become intertwined with ensuring my kids had the best life possible. Staring in the mirror, I hardly recognized the woman looking back at me—she seemed like just a shadow of a mother. It struck me that I needed to reclaim my identity, not only for my own well-being but also to show my children the importance of self-worth.
My journey to rediscovery began with external changes. I invested in new makeup, treated myself to a haircut, and refreshed my wardrobe. I committed to exercising every day, even when my children complained about riding in the stroller while I jogged. I firmly reminded them that this was my time and they needed to respect it just as I respected theirs.
At first, it felt like nothing was changing, but I pressed on. I discovered a sense of empowerment in taking action, even when other aspects of my life felt overwhelming. While I had no control over many circumstances, I could control my own actions.
In the evenings, I turned to writing as an outlet. Each word I penned felt like a release, a way to reconnect with my passion for storytelling. I began working on articles during the day, again reminding my children of the importance of respecting my time. One sunny afternoon at the park, I overheard my 4-year-old son telling a friend that his mom was a runner and a writer. In that moment, I felt immense pride knowing he recognized my identity beyond motherhood.
Gradually, my friends began to view me differently. I could sense their admiration and respect. They commented on how great I looked and expressed their amazement at my resilience during such a challenging time. Each compliment reaffirmed my strength and determination to thrive.
I had lost sight of myself, endured a divorce, and ultimately took control of my own life. I discovered my capabilities and potential. Always remember, you are so much more than just a mother.
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In summary, it’s vital for mothers to remember that their identity encompasses much more than just their role as a parent. By nurturing their own interests and passions, they not only enrich their own lives but also set a powerful example for their children.