Lessons I Wish I Could Share with My 16-Year-Old Self

Oct. 21, 2015

Though it’s been more than 20 years since I was a teenager, I can vividly recall the challenges and triumphs of being 16. If I had the chance to sit down with my younger self, I believe we could navigate through some of the tough times together, potentially sparing ourselves from heartache. As I reflect on the wisdom I’ve gained over the years, here are a few messages I would share with my 16-year-old self.

Trust in Yourself

First and foremost, trust in yourself. You have a deeper understanding of who you are than most people realize. While adults often say, “You’ll change your mind,” know that you possess a sense of self that many might overlook. It has taken me years and travels to reconnect with the essence of who you truly are. Be confident in that identity, because the adults who doubt you may be struggling with their own uncertainties.

Understanding Parental Love

It’s also crucial to recognize that your parents genuinely want what’s best for you. The restrictions they impose, like not letting you fly solo to Chicago, come from a place of love and concern for your safety. They may seem overprotective now, but one day, when you become a parent yourself, you’ll fully understand the worries that come with raising a child. The love they have for you is unwavering, even when it feels like a burden.

The Value of Family Bonds

Remember, family bonds can endure, even when you feel distant. Though home life may be challenging at times, there will come a day when you’ll appreciate the love and support of your parents. When you see them with your children, you’ll realize that they too are only human, navigating their own journeys. Embrace this understanding, as it will enrich your relationships.

True Friendships

You will always have at least one true friend. The departure of your best friend may feel like the end of the world right now, but you will be fortunate enough to meet other amazing women who become your soul sisters. And that friend who’s leaving? There’s a good chance you’ll still be in touch with her decades later, sharing cups of tea and laughter.

Learning to Let Go

Learning to let go is another lesson I wish I could impart. People will come and go in your life, and sometimes you’ll cling to those who aren’t meant to stay. Embrace the idea that those who truly care about you will remain, while it’s okay to wish well to those who move on.

Pursuing Your Dreams

Lastly, don’t abandon your dreams. Your passion for writing, art, and music is a gift, and even though setbacks may come, like disappointing feedback from a teacher, don’t let that discourage you. Keep pursuing your creativity, because in 20 years, you’ll fulfill your dream of becoming a published author. Remember, every artist faces criticism, but your voice matters. One day, you’ll inspire a young writer just as you were once inspired.

These reflections are just a glimpse of what I wish I could convey to my younger self. Life has a way of teaching us lessons, and while I may not have heeded the advice of others at 16, I’ve learned to appreciate it as I grew older. Each of us has something to learn from that younger version of ourselves—whether they felt confident or lost. I aim to hold onto that youthful spirit and hope to be more understanding of the 16-year-olds I encounter.

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Summary

Reflecting on my teenage years, I wish I could share vital lessons about self-acceptance, understanding family love, valuing friendships, and pursuing dreams. These insights would not only ease my younger self’s struggles but also encourage a more positive outlook on life. As we navigate adulthood, it’s important to remember the lessons learned in our youth.