As the warmth of early summer enveloped the day, I found myself marveling at the heat after a long, cold winter. In a couple of months, I would surely reminisce about this moment, just as a mother of a toddler looks back fondly on the easier days of infancy. It seems there’s always something to reflect upon.
The joyful sounds of children playing filled the air, punctuated by laughter and the occasional shout. But then I heard something that sent a chill down my spine. “I am not! Shut up!” The laughter that followed was sharp and mocking, a sound that instinctively alerted me as a mother. Whatever was happening, I knew it wasn’t going to end well.
I heard the unmistakable sound of feet racing across pavement, followed closely by the screen door slamming shut. Then came the sobs, muffled and desperate, as my child buried his face in his arms on the table. “What’s wrong?” I asked, though I already feared I knew the answer.
“He called me fat,” he replied, his words heavy with hurt. They hung in the air like stones, each one a reminder of the pain that only a child can truly understand.
Rage bubbled up inside me. How dare someone say such a thing? Who raised this child to be so cruel? Don’t they realize that body shaming, under any circumstance, is unacceptable? Then came the shame, memories flooding back of my own childhood taunts: “Fatso,” “Pammy Pumpkin Poop.” I still carry those scars and the struggles of body image from my own past. I remember the embarrassment of being chosen last for every team sport. It’s a weight I still bear.
“Who calls a child fat?” I thought. But beneath the fury was a deep sense of empathy for my son, who at just seven years old, was already facing such cruelty. “You are not fat—you must know that,” I said firmly, trying to bolster his spirit. “It’s wrong for anyone to say that to another person.” He nodded, his head still hidden in his arms, though the tears had slowed.
Then, unexpectedly, I felt a strange sense of joy wash over me. He called my son fat—a typical playground insult, like calling someone four-eyes or big-nosed. I found myself oddly relieved. My son, who had transitioned six months prior from being assigned female at birth, was facing the same challenges every child does. He was simply being called a name, and in some twisted way, I was grateful it was something so ordinary.
I’ve been hyper-aware of every slight directed at him since his transition, sitting through therapy sessions where he shared stories of bullies calling him “weird” or “creepy.” I’ve learned to communicate with school officials discreetly, ensuring they understand how to support my child without drawing unwanted attention. I’ve felt the tension when other parents pull their kids closer as we walk by, fearing their kids might catch something from him, or worse, be transgender themselves.
I’ve seen the stress etched into his face during doctor visits, where we’ve sought answers for his debilitating pains—only to be told everything is normal. I longed for a tangible issue we could confront, something typical like a playground insult. I’ve spent countless sleepless nights worrying about worse names he might encounter, anticipating the day when he can’t simply run outside and play without fear of being outed by his own body.
My heart ached at the thought of bullies not simply calling him fat, but something far more hurtful and discriminatory. The names he escaped filled me with bittersweet relief. For today, he was called fat and not something more damaging.
Soon enough, we would step outside together, demanding an apology for the hurtful words. He’d return to playing with his friends, and the day would end beautifully, as it began, under the glow of fireflies.
I realize now, it’s not the names he’s called that define him, but the love and support that surrounds him. And as we navigate these challenges together, I’m reminded of the resilience of our children.
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Summary
In a moment of frustration, a mother reflects on the challenges her transgender son faces, especially when confronted with cruel taunts. While anger and memories of her own childhood experiences resurface, she finds an unexpected sense of relief in the commonality of childhood teasing. This piece highlights the importance of support, love, and understanding as families navigate the complexities of identity and acceptance.