In a digital age where technology is ever-present, it’s no surprise that many moms find themselves shamed for using their phones. If you’re at the playground scrolling through social media? Apparently, you’re doing it wrong. A recent post has surfaced that takes this idea further, suggesting we should feel immense guilt if we don’t lock eyes with our children every time they seek our attention.
This week, a mom named Sarah from California conducted an “experiment” by observing her twin boys as they played. She noted how frequently they glanced her way, yearning for her approval or simply to share a moment. In her viral post, she expressed concern about the emotional distance her kids might feel if she were focused on her phone instead of engaging with them directly. Since its publication, her message has been shared widely, accompanied by phrases like, “Moms, put your phones down and pick up your kids!”
While I understand the intent behind such reminders, it’s disheartening to see them used as a tool for judging other mothers. Yes, we all want our kids to feel loved and secure, but let’s not forget that “balance” looks different for everyone. For instance, I’ve set a personal goal to read 30 classic novels this year, and I’ve been using the Kindle app on my phone to do it. My phone is also my lifeline to family, friends, and my job, which relies heavily on being connected, especially since I live in Nebraska and contribute to publications based in New York City.
The emphasis on vilifying technology overlooks the reality that many use their devices for important tasks. Whether it’s making grocery lists, responding to emails, or even finding resources on fertility, like those at Make a Mom, we all have our reasons. Some moms may even find solace in a few minutes on social media, especially those managing postpartum depression. Who are we to judge?
In this swirling sea of mom guilt, it’s essential to remember that each of us is juggling different responsibilities and challenges. It’s about finding what balance means for you and not succumbing to the pressure of societal expectations regarding parenting.
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In summary, let’s embrace a more understanding approach to motherhood that acknowledges the complexities of our lives rather than perpetuating guilt.