To My Middle Child, The Lucky One

Dear Middle Child,

I have a little secret to share with you: you often get a bad reputation. You don’t just develop a complex; it’s handed to you. Society tends to label you as the “forgotten one” before you even experience any trauma. But here’s the twist—you’ve actually hit the jackpot.

Your Siblings

Let’s talk about your older brother, Max. We put immense pressure on him. He was labeled “advanced” because he achieved milestones early—rolling over and walking before most kids. We were constantly on edge, waiting for his next word, his next step. He was always seen as the eldest, which comes with significant expectations. That’s tough, buddy.

Now, let’s consider your younger brother, Leo. He’s not faring much better either. With him, we’ve fought no battles. He gets away with so much simply because we’re exhausted. He’s worn us down, and while things are great for him right now, reality will eventually hit him hard. There will come a time when he has to give up his pacifier, ditch the diapers, and sleep through the night. That’ll be a whole different ballgame.

The Sweet Spot

But you? You’re right in the sweet spot. I realized this when your dad was juggling a baby bottle for Leo while helping Max with homework. You quietly snuck away and devoured a whole stash of Hershey’s chocolate eggs without anyone noticing. You cleverly hid the first few wrappers in the couch, and then realized no one was watching—you feasted! Being the middle child has its perks.

Your place in the family means we’re more attuned to your feelings. The moment you show any sign of anxiety or sadness, we’re all over it. We know how it feels to be the middle one, the often overlooked. We want to make sure you never feel invisible, so we’re attentive to your needs. However, we don’t hover. Hovering is not the answer. Just ask Max or Leo; they’ll tell you. You get to journey through life without that constant scrutiny.

A Special Bond

Here’s something truly special about you. When Max was on the way, he was the star of the show—everyone’s first grandchild. He had a grand welcome with baby showers, hospital visits, and endless attention. I had to share him with everyone.

Then came Leo, and you and Max were thrilled to welcome him. You both doted on him, sharing those sweet first smiles and giggles. While we handled the dirty diapers, you took care of the fun stuff.

But you—you were my baby. People don’t usually make a fuss over the second child, but I was over the moon for you. I envisioned you before you even arrived, feeling like I already knew you.

There were fewer visitors when you were born, allowing me to savor those cuddles and kisses. Your dad took Max out, leaving us to bond. Together, we figured out Max and Leo, but only I could truly understand you. You are uniquely mine, and while everyone loves you—because you are absolutely lovable—you are my special treasure.

No Need for Apologies

So there’s no need for apologies for being overlooked or having fewer photos taken. You’ve hit the jackpot, my dear. Being the middle child is a wonderful place to be.

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In Summary

In summary, being the middle child has its unique advantages. You may sometimes feel overlooked, but it allows you the freedom to explore life with less pressure. You are cherished, protected, and very much loved.