The countdown to the holidays has begun. Stores are overflowing with festive decorations, and everywhere you look, there’s an abundance of cheerful advertisements promoting everything from luxury cars to extravagant gift sets. Social media is flooded with lists like “25 Ways to Have a Merry Christmas” and “10 Must-See Holiday Movies,” creating a sense of urgency to do it all. Meanwhile, Christmas music echoes in the background, and the mail is filled with catalogs featuring everything imaginable for the season.
As a mom in my forties juggling a busy household, the holiday season can sometimes feel overwhelming. Just the other day, while wandering through a shop filled with twinkling lights and holiday scents, I felt a wave of anxiety wash over me. My mental to-do list started to grow:
- Set up the decorations
- Bake cookies and prepare meals
- Find the perfect gifts for my teenagers (Is that even possible?)
- Capture a family photo for Christmas cards, ensuring everyone looks great and is in a good mood
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg! I left the store feeling more stressed than excited, wishing for a quick end to the holiday chaos.
But then it hit me. My extensive to-do list was largely influenced by societal expectations and commercial pressures. Did I really need to do all of these things to create a memorable holiday? What if I let go of some of these tasks that seemed so vital? Could I simplify and still ensure my family had a joyful holiday?
The answer was a resounding yes! All my family truly needs for a Merry Christmas is one essential thing: time. Time spent with a relaxed and happy parent.
This holiday season, I’ve resolved to only focus on the activities that bring joy and peace to our family. I refuse to let the pressure of the holidays transform what should be a time of joy into a source of frustration. There’s no material gift or fancy decoration that can replace the happiness of a parent who’s present and engaged.
Reflecting on my childhood, I recall a moment when I found my mom in tears while listening to Christmas music. When I asked her why, she explained that the holidays, often viewed as the happiest time of year, can also be a period of deep sadness for many. It’s a time when those grieving can feel the weight of their loss even more acutely amidst the festive cheer.
Perhaps those who experience the holidays with a more somber perspective can teach us a valuable lesson: the true spirit of the season lies in cherishing moments rather than collecting things. The most important item on my holiday to-do list is the gift of time—time with my loved ones, not time spent rushing around to check off tasks.
This year, I want to savor the holidays by being fully present. I want to embrace my children’s laughter and stories instead of worrying about decorations or baked goods. I aim to create precious memories together, not get caught up in holiday obligations.
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In summary, this holiday season, let’s prioritize time over tasks, making room for joy and connection rather than stress and obligation.