As we step into the playground, your child spots mine and exclaims, “Mom, look at her!” You quickly hush him, pulling him close as you reprimand him softly. Later, while at the grocery store, he notices the baby in my cart and asks, “Why is that baby so red?” You cover his mouth, rushing around the corner without a glance back. In the library, your children halt in their tracks, wide-eyed at my daughter, while you scramble to distract them, fear in your eyes.
I see this happen almost daily. I hear the questions and catch the stares. Every whispered comment reaches my ears, and my heart aches as I realize you’re trying to “hide” it from us.
I understand your embarrassment—parenting is tough for all of us. We both want the best for our children and love them deeply. When you attempt to shield these conversations from us, it feels as if you’re avoiding our family. The small space between us, once insignificant, transforms into a vast chasm that seems daunting to cross.
What do I wish for you?
I wish you would keep the lines of communication open. Rather than treating us as unapproachable, relate to us as you would any other family at the park. When your child points and says, “Look!” I hope you reply, “Yes, look at that little girl. She seems to be having a great time, just like you!” If your child asks, “Why does she look like that?” I wish you would respond honestly, “I’m not sure, but remember, it’s our differences that make us unique and special.”
Encourage your child to say hello and ask for my kids’ names. If your little one is inadvertently rude, a sincere apology goes a long way: “I’m so sorry. We’re learning how to ask questions respectfully.” Follow it up with a compliment: “Your daughter is adorable! How old is she?”
Above all, I wish you would discuss differences more openly. Read books together that celebrate diversity, and engage in discussions about various kinds of differences—whether it’s a wheelchair, birthmarks, or even skin disorders. Help your children understand that if they have questions, they can come to you privately, without hurting anyone’s feelings. After all, how we treat one another is far more important than appearances.
So, the next time we meet, I hope you choose connection over avoidance. Let’s turn what might seem like a divide into a chance for your child to learn respect and appreciation for physical differences—because differences should never be feared.
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Summary
This piece encourages parents to approach differences with openness and understanding, fostering respectful conversations about diversity. By promoting inclusivity and encouraging children to engage with those who look different, we can create a more compassionate community.