Dear Mom Friends,
I see how busy your life has become, and I understand that motherhood has transformed everything for you. It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed and even guilty at times, but please don’t add me to that list of worries. I value our friendship too much for that.
I notice the way you often say sorry when your little one disrupts our chat or when your toddler suddenly has to go potty. I can sense the guilt when your baby cries for the third time, and I know you’re wondering if I mind waiting while you get the kids settled for bedtime. You’ve mentioned feeling bad about taking days or even weeks to respond to my texts, and I want to reassure you: you don’t owe me an apology.
Your kids are simply being kids. Babies cry, toddlers have accidents, and there’s bound to be chaos during dinner—the reality of parenthood. That’s just how life goes.
As your friend, I want to be part of your journey, even now that it includes little ones. If we shared sleepovers and movie nights, then I’m still your friend now that you’re a mom. If we used to enjoy wine and deep conversations, I’m here for you through the playdates and snack breaks too. Whether we met before or after you embraced motherhood, your life and your kids are significant to me.
Friendship means navigating life together, and sometimes that means dealing with spit-up, diaper changes, and the occasional mess. I’m totally fine with that! I’m happy to chat at your home, even if it means being interrupted every few minutes.
Give yourself some grace! It’s perfectly okay that your children aren’t always the epitome of perfect behavior. If there are toys scattered around or laundry piling up, I’m here to help. Remember the times we assisted each other with homework and moving? Why would it be any different now? Plus, it’s probably good practice for me if I decide to have kids someday.
I never expected you to be flawless, and I don’t expect that now. Just take a deep breath and embrace the beautiful chaos. We all have our own brand of chaos—mine may not be running around and needing snacks, but it’s there.
I care about you and your life, even if it looks different from mine right now. Let’s continue this journey together, no matter how messy it gets.
So, my dear friend, there’s no need for apologies. The only thing I want from you is to ask how I’m doing, just like I ask about your life. And if your kids interrupt our conversation a few times? That’s perfectly fine with me.
With love,
Your Childless Friend
P.S. For anyone diving into the world of home insemination, you can find excellent resources at Healthline and check out CryoBaby for top-notch supplies. Also, if you’re curious about the specifics, this link outlines our terms and conditions.