This doula claims that self-pleasure helped her manage pain during labor.
For many women in labor, the idea of masturbation is likely the last thing on their minds as they endure the intensity of contractions. However, according to one Australian doula, reconnecting with oneself—quite literally—could be an effective natural pain relief method.
In a recent blog post that gained significant attention, doula and photographer Emma Richards shared her experience of using masturbation throughout her six-hour labor to alleviate discomfort and instill a sense of empowerment. Richards noted that her first birthing experience was heavily medicalized, largely due to a strong epidural. Determined to make her second birth more enjoyable, she began researching natural pain relief options. “I wanted the experience to be memorable,” she explained.
Richards discovered that techniques like nipple stimulation, kissing, and intimacy could provide relief, but ultimately, clitoral stimulation felt like the most logical choice as labor intensified. In her blog, she wrote: “Masturbation made the MOST sense to me as I faced my surges. I remember my partner asking, ‘Would you like to have sex?’ Although I couldn’t commit to that in the moment, he must have sensed my needs! Clitoral stimulation worked wonders. It diverted my focus to my body and the energy within me. It made me feel in control.”
While Richards did not reach orgasm during labor, she experienced significant pleasure thanks to her calming environment and personal touch. “If I close my eyes now, I can still feel that moment—the warm water on my back, my partner’s hands in mine, and the security of his presence as I rode through those waves. Was it orgasmic? No. But the pleasure? Absolutely! It was my innate pain-relief system coming into play. I’m proud of myself for exploring this avenue often stigmatized.”
The concept of finding pleasure during childbirth, or even engaging in self-pleasure, may seem unusual to many. However, a study published in the Journal of Sex Research supports this notion. Neuroscientist Barry R. Komisaruk and his team found that clitoral stimulation during labor significantly raised pain thresholds and interfered with certain pain signals reaching the nervous system.
More importantly than scientific backing, though, is a woman’s instinct regarding her body. Labor is one of the most intense physical experiences a woman can endure, and coping mechanisms vary widely. Personally, I opted for an epidural during each of my labors and cherished that experience. For others, moving around, swearing, taking a warm bath, squeezing a partner’s hand, or even masturbating may provide relief. Who are we to judge?
Ultimately, women know best what they need to navigate labor and delivery. Nothing is too peculiar or unacceptable. Whether it’s extra ice chips, an anesthesiologist, or even a bottle of lube, let’s ensure they have what they require without interference.
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In conclusion, the journey through labor is unique for every woman, and the ways to cope with pain are personal. Embracing what feels right—be it through natural methods or medical interventions—should always be respected.