We crossed paths today during my stroll around the neighborhood, and I can’t shake the feeling that I didn’t express myself as well as I could have. I wanted to reach out again.
My day was a bit chaotic, and I’m pretty sure my two little ones felt it, too. I had a bit too much coffee, and my heart was racing—definitely not my finest moment, but the result of another night of restless sleep. Yes, the baby is a factor, but I also acknowledge my own struggles with sleep. Our morning routine was disrupted when the baby napped, so instead of our usual morning walk, we ventured out in the afternoon to visit the candy store. We stopped frequently to chat or to let my older son pet a dog we encountered. In a way, I’m grateful for the change in our schedule because it led me to you.
As we were nearing home, I noticed someone behind us. I turned around quickly, spotting your bright orange double stroller. I waved, feeling slightly embarrassed at my sudden movement, but then I called out, “Sorry! I didn’t mean to stare—I was just curious about who was behind us!” I waited for you to catch up while sipping my coffee.
When you got closer, I saw your little ones nestled in the stroller—one peacefully sleeping and the other wide awake with striking blue eyes. We exchanged small talk about our children—your twins, my one-year-old daughter, and my six-year-old son. In that moment, I felt a sense of relief that my “baby” had outgrown that stage. I have cherished my infants, but I also remember the challenges of those early days, and I sensed you were going through a similar experience.
After discussing our kids, I asked how you were holding up, and you mentioned that today’s walk felt therapeutic. I should have shared that my walks serve as my daily therapy, but instead, you opened up about your struggles with breastfeeding and the recent decision to stop nursing your twins. I noticed the emotional weight you carried as you spoke, and I tried to convey my understanding through my expressions. It struck me that perhaps you felt the need to explain your situation to someone who could listen without judgment.
As I walked away, I felt I could have said much more. Here’s what I wish I had shared with you:
1. Parenting is Tough.
It’s truly challenging, and no one prepares you for it. The intensity of love can feel overwhelming, and it’s okay to acknowledge that. Embrace the difficulties; they are part of the journey. I used to be afraid as a new mom, but I’ve learned to navigate those feelings, even if parenting remains a little chaotic.
2. Your Babies Are Fed and Healthy.
I know you feel upset about stopping breastfeeding, but remember that what matters most is that your babies are nourished and thriving. I reflected on how I felt when my son weaned himself. It was a bittersweet moment, and yes, it took time to find peace with it. Trust that it will get easier.
3. Release the Guilt.
If you’re feeling guilty, know that you’re not alone. Every day, I grapple with feelings of guilt over something I said or didn’t say. It’s part of being a mom, so let’s support each other in letting go of that burden.
4. It’s Challenging, But There’s Joy Ahead.
Right now, you’re in the thick of it with sleepless nights and feeding difficulties. But trust me, the hard work will pay off. I could see how you admired my children’s bond, and I want you to know that the joy they bring me is immeasurable. You’ll experience that, too.
5. Be Kind to Yourself.
You are doing the best you can, and that’s enough. While it may not feel like it at times, self-care is crucial. Keep taking those walks; fresh air can be incredibly restorative. I won’t suggest you nap when they do because I know that can be frustrating. Just find little ways to nurture yourself.
6. Keep Walking Together.
Let’s make this a habit. I rely on my walks for therapy, and I’d love for you to join me. I enjoy coffee, chocolate, and maybe a few too many expletives, but what I cherish most is the connection we can build through this journey.
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To summarize, being a new mom can feel overwhelmingly difficult, but it’s essential to recognize the love and joy that come with the challenges. Embrace your journey, lean on others for support, and remember that you are doing a remarkable job.