As a parent, I’ve discovered a unique approach to maintaining harmony in my home: bribery. While traditional parenting methods may suggest discipline through spanking or yelling, I find those tactics exhausting and often counterproductive. Instead, I rely on a more effective tool that keeps the peace and motivates my son—bribery.
Now, let’s clarify: I don’t condone excessive discipline. My son, Alex, isn’t a perfect child, nor am I a flawless parent. But the secret to our stress-free household lies in understanding what truly drives Alex—video games. Since he was six, he has been captivated by gaming, and now at eleven, he boasts his own Xbox One and an impressive collection of games. I didn’t even have a TV in my room until high school, yet his gaming setup is the envy of his friends.
Initially, I worried that we were overindulging him with screen time. However, I soon realized that video games are his motivation. Instead of resorting to traditional discipline, I use this interest to encourage good behavior. We may not be wealthy, but the value of this approach is priceless.
How It Works
My system is straightforward: video games are a privilege that Alex must earn through responsible behavior. Our main household rule is that enjoyment comes only to those who demonstrate responsibility. If he misbehaves—like neglecting homework or being rude—he quickly loses access to his gaming privileges. For instance, skipping band practice means no Plants vs. Zombies: Garden Warfare 2. If he talks back while I ask for help, his headset goes away, cutting him off from chatting with his gaming friends.
Conversely, good behavior earns him bonuses. If Alex performs well on a test, he might get a new Minecraft skin. Helping with chores or babysitting his younger cousins can earn him extra gaming time or his favorite snacks. And if he’s eyeing a new game, I’ll even pay him for chores to help him save up—it’s win-win!
The Principle Behind It
Think back to potty training; didn’t you use stickers or rewards to encourage your child? The principle remains the same, even as your child grows. Find that one thing they cherish—be it video games, Legos, or watching their favorite shows—and use it to guide their behavior. It’s a simple yet effective way to navigate parenting while keeping your sanity intact.
Further Reading
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Conclusion
In summary, embracing bribery as a parenting tool has made my life much easier. By leveraging Alex’s love for video games, I can encourage positive behavior and maintain a happy household. Remember, parenting doesn’t have to be an uphill battle—find what works for you!