Every time someone spots my baby bump, they ask when I’m due and then happily proclaim, “You must be thrilled!” The truth? Not really. Seven months into my third pregnancy, and while I’m content about welcoming another child into our family, the excitement isn’t quite there yet. I cherish the support of my loved ones and appreciate the moments that feel just right. However, it’s been six long years since I last experienced pregnancy, and I know the toughest parts are still ahead.
1. Been There, Done That (Twice)
The first pregnancy was exhilarating, and the second was a mix of shock and apprehension. Having two little ones under two was not in my original playbook! Now that my kids are 6 and 7, I feel like I have a handle on things. They can walk, talk, and even whip up their own breakfasts, leaving me time to rest. So, why on earth did I think adding a newborn would be a breeze?
2. The Clutter Dilemma
Babies might not come with a lot of things, but people sure love to gift and loan baby gear! While I appreciate the offers, I haven’t had baby stuff in my house for over four years. The clutter was overwhelming the first time around, and I’m not keen to revisit that chaos. This little one won’t be doing much in the first few months anyway, so I’m slowly coming to terms with the fact that I need some essentials—currently, they’ve taken over a corner of the guest room, keeping things “normal” for now.
3. Birth Plans Are Personal
I’m not really in the mood to discuss my birth plan, midwife, or diaper choices. There are endless opinions on the best approaches, and honestly, I’d prefer not to hear them. Trust me, if I wanted your advice, I’d ask. With my midwife, my past experiences, and my research skills, I’m set. If you’re not stepping into the delivery room with me, I don’t feel the need to share my plans. Simple as that!
4. The Social Media Circus
Let’s be real—social media can be exhausting! We debated whether or not to announce this pregnancy online. I knew someone would inevitably mention it, and if the world was going to find out, I wanted to be the one to share the news. Now, it feels like every pregnancy announcement is a competition for creativity and uniqueness, complete with elaborate gender reveals. Instead, we simply shared our news at the 20-week mark, and the reactions ranged from surprise to a simple “Wow.” Perfect!
5. The Long Wait Ahead
With my first two pregnancies, I found out around the 10-week mark; this time, it was just 5 weeks in. That makes the next 35 weeks feel like an eternity! Yes, we’re on the downhill slope, but each week seems to drag as the baby grows into various fruits and vegetables. And when people ask if I’m ready, I often wonder, “Ready for what?” The baby will arrive on its own schedule, and right now, all I really need is a car seat—which I still haven’t gotten because…I still think there’s time.
I know this new addition will be a remarkable journey. Watching my older children meet their new sibling will be a heartwarming moment. The love and support from my community, which stretches far and wide, will help me through the challenging days. Although I’m not bursting with excitement at the moment, I’m confident that soon enough, I will be.
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In summary, while I may not feel the excitement now, I know that this journey will bring joy and fulfillment, especially as I witness the love my children will have for their new sibling.