One of the toughest challenges I faced as a parent was coming to terms with my son’s lack of motivation in school. Despite my husband and I striving not to allow his grades to define him—particularly in high school—we couldn’t help but feel their weight on our parenting self-perception. We had moments of uncertainty, often questioning our parenting choices. What had we overlooked? What could we have done differently to inspire him to thrive? Ultimately, it turns out, it wasn’t our responsibility to motivate him.
In today’s fiercely competitive academic environment—filled with AP courses, honor rolls, and perfect GPAs—having an average student can feel like a significant setback for many parents. Some may even view a “C” student as akin to a high school dropout, especially when it comes to admissions at top-tier colleges. Overwhelmed high school counselors and private admissions consultants often overlook average students, labeling them as likely candidates for community college.
However, a student’s average grades in high school do not determine their potential for success in college. My son finished high school with a GPA just under 3.0, impacted by a mild learning disability (ADHD) and a noticeable lack of motivation. We explored various avenues to spark his interest in academics, including hiring tutors—one of whom was a PhD English teacher known for inspiring students. Yet, every week, as I listened in, it was evident that my son was utterly disinterested, despite the teacher’s engaging methods. As someone who loves reading, I found it both disheartening and alarming. How would he navigate college without strong literary skills?
Conversely, my son was a sports encyclopedia. His ability to recall baseball and football statistics was astonishing. He could analyze every play in a football game with the precision of a mathematician solving equations. While my husband and I often wondered how this passion would benefit him academically, we believed the life lessons learned from football—commitment, discipline, respect, and teamwork—would serve him well. We supported him wholeheartedly, hoping his enthusiasm for sports might eventually translate into his schoolwork.
The notion that only attendance at a top 50 university guarantees success is misleading and unrealistic for the vast majority of high school students who lack the necessary grades or financial means. Numerous fantastic universities welcome average students and provide the enriching experiences that are the true purpose of higher education. My son was fortunate enough to be accepted into one of these institutions.
Parents of average students might consider altering their approach and resist the natural urge to constantly push for better academic performance. Many teens don’t mature enough to find their drive until after high school. The arguments and stress surrounding academic improvement were often counterproductive, causing frustration for both my son and us.
For my son, it wasn’t until he entered college and discovered a passion for American History that he started achieving the grades we always believed he could. By the spring of 2014, he graduated in four years, having written a senior thesis on the history of the Mexican baseball league and its influence on the sport in the U.S., earning a B plus. Today, he juggles two jobs—one in management for a college football team and another in public affairs for a prominent energy company. His success came not from being an exceptional high school student but from finding his own path, free from parental pressure. That, for me, is the most rewarding outcome of all.
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Summary
Parenting an average student can present unique challenges, but it’s essential to recognize that success is not solely defined by high school GPA. Parents should encourage self-discovery and allow their children to pursue their interests, which can lead to unexpected achievements in college and beyond.