As a parent, I strive to maintain a balance between being firm and fair. I establish boundaries and refuse to tolerate nonsense. More often than not, my day is filled with “no.” No, you can’t have dessert before dinner. No, you can’t use your toy lightsaber to battle your sibling. No, you can’t run outside in your pajamas.
Yet there are moments when I become a total softy. I yield to their persistent pleas, overlook certain misbehaviors, and sometimes even say “yes” when I really should say “no.”
Sometimes, I’m just worn out from being the enforcer all day. Who wants to be labeled the Meanest Mom Ever for insisting that my daughter, heaven forbid, take a shower? At other times, I give in simply because these little beings are adorable, and childhood is meant for indulgence and the occasional silly choice. And let’s be real: sometimes it’s just fun to throw caution to the wind.
Here are some of the things I find myself saying “yes” to, even if they might warrant a “no”:
Sweet Treats
Desserts for my kids also means I get to enjoy treats too, without the hassle of sneaking them away or trying to munch quietly.
Cookie Dough Sampling
Few pleasures are as delightful as licking the mixing bowl or indulging in a spoonful of cookie dough. Besides, has anyone really fallen ill from it?
Social Gatherings
Playdates mean my kids are happy, which translates to a happier me. Plus, having their friends over reduces my burden of keeping them entertained.
Extra TV Time
Sometimes, a little extra screen time is just what a mom needs for some peace.
Tree Climbing Adventures
Isn’t climbing trees an essential skill of childhood?
New Books
I have a soft spot for new books. Even though my kids have access to plenty at school and the library, if they ask for a new one, I usually say “sure!” You can check out more on this topic at intracervicalinsemination.com to see how to encourage reading.
Homework Breaks
Sorry, teachers! But we have a mountain of books at home, so it all balances out, right?
Taking Risks
Learning to make smart choices often starts with a few calculated risks.
Leaving the Toilet Seat Up
While this drives me a bit nuts, sometimes it’s just easier to let it slide.
Grocery Store Junk Food
Taking kids grocery shopping can be a challenge. If letting them choose some junk food eases the stress, I’m all for it.
Independence through Solitude
How else will they learn to be independent if they don’t ride their bikes alone now and then?
Occasional Skipping of Teeth-Brushing
I know this one seems lazy, but come on, cut me some slack!
Bedtime Extensions
Even on the days filled with bickering, they somehow become the sweetest at bedtime, which leads me to say yes to a later lights-out.
Sports Gear
When your kid is passionate about a sport, it’s hard to say no—even if that passion changes every few weeks.
Dining Anywhere but the Table
By the week’s end, insisting they sit at the table feels like one battle too many. Crumbs everywhere? That’s what dogs are for!
Extra Tuck-Ins
I’ve already said goodnight and “It’s time for bed!” but when they ask for another tuck-in, I usually give in.
Creating Messes
While I cringe at the messes, the chaos often buys me a few moments of quiet.
Family Movie Nights
This is often the only time my kids sit still. Add buttery popcorn, and they might even be quiet!
Movies with Language
Occasional swearing in movies? There are worse things, and they probably hear worse on the playground. Plus, those films tend to be more entertaining.
Encouraging Individuality
I not only say “yes” to their unique choices but actively encourage them. I want my kids to embrace being their true selves.
Parenting is filled with tough choices, and I find myself saying “no” frequently to guide my kids away from poor decisions. However, perhaps saying “yes” more often is a better approach after all. Yes is simply more enjoyable!
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Summary:
This lighthearted blog reflects on the joys of saying “yes” to kids, highlighting the balance between discipline and indulgence. It emphasizes fun moments, from extra treats to impromptu adventures, while acknowledging the challenges of parenting and the importance of fostering independence and individuality.