“Mommy, I don’t want to go to bed.”
That simple statement marked a turning point in my life, reshaping everything I thought I knew about existence. Before that moment, my child was a mere concept, a fleeting thought. But on March 15, 2016, everything changed when my little one made their grand entrance into the world.
Fast forward five years: 1,825 days, or roughly 43,800 hours. Wow. So what has changed? What wisdom have I gathered during this whirlwind journey? While the lessons are numerous, here are five key takeaways.
Perfection is a Myth (So Let’s Stop Chasing It)
Sure, aiming for perfection sounds appealing, but why do we put so much pressure on ourselves? Is the universe going to collapse if my child skips dessert or makes a mess while eating? Sometimes, we need to let go and embrace the chaos. “F–k it”: let them wear mismatched socks, have dessert for breakfast, or bring their favorite toy along to the grocery store. Sometimes, it’s okay to just roll with it.
Embracing Life’s Unpredictability
Ever played a game of Solitaire and found yourself stuck? Well, parenting can feel a bit like that. Sometimes, despite all your best efforts, a meltdown is inevitable. Acknowledge that there will be moments when you can’t control everything. Accepting that you’re doing your best, even when the situation feels hopeless, is crucial. It’s okay to simply be okay.
The Joy of Mixed Emotions
I’ve coined a term for a unique feeling known only to parents: NostalJoyMent. It’s that bittersweet blend of pride, happiness, and sadness that washes over you when your child reaches a milestone. Take, for instance, the moment they conquer their fear of the dark. You feel pride for guiding them, joy in their happiness, and a twinge of sorrow that they’re growing up. It’s a daily rollercoaster of feelings that keeps you on your toes.
Long Days, Short Years
The phrase “the days are long, but the years are short” rings true. Weekend bedtimes are particularly tough. Saturday night is filled with anticipation; Sunday night brings the anxiety of the week ahead. Time can be relentless, speeding by while you juggle daily responsibilities. One moment you’re dealing with tantrums, and the next, you’re marveling at your five-year-old’s newfound independence. The years may fly, but they’re filled with unforgettable moments.
What We Leave Behind Matters Most
As I approach my 38th birthday, I find myself pondering legacy. What will my children remember? My goal is to nurture kind, compassionate individuals who will, in turn, raise more great people. Think of life like a quilt, where each generation adds their unique patch. Your piece may fade, but it contributes significantly to the whole.
Writing this is a challenge because many lessons are ineffable. Parenthood grows in complexity, responsibility, and love. I find myself surprised that I continue to write about my experiences. Every time I think I’ve run out of insight, new moments arise that inspire me. Ultimately, each day brings fresh reasons to cherish my kids.
After those fulfilling days filled with laughter and connection, I close their bedroom door and step into the adult world, heart brimming with NostalJoyMent. Each day seems to get better than the last. What have I learned in five years? It just keeps getting bigger.
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In summary, parenting is a journey of unpredictable joys and challenges that continually shape who you are.