Dear Kids,
The last few weeks have been tough—not just for you, but for all of us adults too. With the tragic events surrounding the lives of people like Marcus and Sophia, it’s understandable that many are feeling a mix of anger and sadness. People are hurting, and it seems overwhelming. Yet, this is now a challenge we all face, including you.
While you didn’t create this situation, I’ve often told you that it doesn’t matter who made the mess. What truly matters is that you can contribute to fixing it, so let’s rise to the occasion together.
It breaks my heart to think about the world you’ve inherited, but you must learn to navigate through it and be part of the solution. As you process the complexities of life, here are some important lessons to guide you:
1. Remember the Bigger Picture.
When we were driving the other day, you noticed that if you only knew our family, you might think everyone has brown eyes like us. You laughed at how silly that would be. Adults often get trapped in similar thinking, surrounded by people who are like themselves, creating a false sense of sameness. The world is much broader than it appears—so keep your eyes open and explore other experiences.
2. Acknowledge Others’ Pain.
It’s crucial to believe people when they share their struggles. Adults may forget this, but you must remember: everyone experiences life differently. Just because you can’t feel their suffering doesn’t mean it’s not real. Your role is to alleviate the pain of others, not to judge whose suffering is more valid.
3. Listen and Learn.
Think back to when we raised money for kids with Type I Diabetes. If, during that event, I had interrupted to share my own health issues, it would have been disrespectful. The focus was on listening to their stories, not making it about me. Sometimes your own experiences aren’t the priority; make space to hear others.
4. See Yourself Accurately.
Everyone believes they’re the “good guy.” My professor once said, “Being right isn’t enough; you must also be wise.” You may feel justified in your beliefs, but so does everyone else. True change doesn’t come from seeing others as enemies. There are no “bad guys,” just people who may be lost or hurting. Step in with compassion and understanding, and be willing to learn from your own mistakes too.
5. Stand Up for Fairness.
Use your voice and your heart to advocate for others. If you witness someone being treated unfairly, don’t stay silent. Whether it’s on the playground or in the workplace, taking action is vital. Your voice matters, and silence can condone harmful behavior.
6. Explore the World.
Expand your horizons by reading widely and saving up for adventures. Experiencing different cultures and perspectives will help you recognize patterns in society. The more you know, the better equipped you’ll be to challenge injustice.
7. Question Everything.
Never stop seeking knowledge. Examine the reasoning behind beliefs and actions. Understanding will lead to wisdom, and wisdom is what the world needs.
I’m here cheering you on, filled with hope that you’ll forge a brighter path than we did. My love for you is profound, and it mirrors the love all mothers have for their children. Honor that love by treating every child with the same kindness.
Much love,
Your Mother
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In summary, it’s essential to embrace empathy, question assumptions, and actively participate in creating a more inclusive world. Your actions can inspire change and help heal the wounds we see around us.