Parenting
Growing up as the eldest of three siblings, I was bound by a set of household rules that were non-negotiable. Television was strictly off-limits except for special family nights featuring PBS specials deemed “educational.” Clothes? They had to be picked up, or else. And swearing? Absolutely not. Even a hint of profanity could land you in serious trouble—bedtime without supper was the least of your worries. The mere thought of uttering a curse word felt like a betrayal of my upbringing.
It’s amusing, then, that my parents were known for their colorful language. My mother often expressed her frustration with phrases like, “Clean your damn room!” Her words were laced with enough emphasis to ensure we understood the urgency of the situation. My father, on the other hand, spoke rarely but commanded attention with his calm yet firm voice, delivering commands that felt ominous, almost like a scene from The Godfather: “Clean…your…room…now.” You didn’t want to test that authority.
When I turned ten, I attended a party where the air was filled with swearing, a kind of newfound freedom that electrified my peers. Surrounded by laughter and exclamations of profanity, I realized that cursing was part of growing up—a rite of passage that felt exhilarating. While I kept my language clean around my parents, I began exploring the world of swearing in my own way. At first, it was harmless phrases like “Oh, crap!” or “What the heck!”—just enough to spice up my conversation without crossing any lines.
College opened the floodgates to a plethora of colorful language. My friends and I embraced swearing like it was a second language, and I became adept at articulating my feelings with a flair for the dramatic. When I got married, my partner and I reveled in this newfound camaraderie, weaving swears into our daily banter, regardless of the topic.
But everything changed when we welcomed our first child. Like many new parents, we vowed to shield our little one from bad language. It’s a rule everyone seems to follow, akin to wearing clothes in the house. Suddenly, I found myself speaking in a sanitized manner, scowling at anyone who dared to curse within earshot. I substituted my favorite swear words with bland alternatives that did nothing to convey my emotions.
As I struggled to find balance, I realized that my kids were picking up on the concept of swearing from their peers and media. “My friend said the ‘s’ word,” my son would whisper during breakfast, eyes wide with mischief as he awaited my reaction. I was taken aback when I realized that I felt no outrage. After all, there are far worse things my children could be doing than exploring the boundaries of language.
Instead of imposing strict rules about what could or could not be said, I aimed to teach them about context. Swearing might earn you some street cred with friends, but it’s not always appropriate in every situation. And while I’ve toned down my language around them, I still let the occasional expletive slip when emotions run high. My sons, now in on the secret, share knowing glances, reveling in the thrill of “forbidden” words.
For now, I’ve promised them that they can embrace more colorful language when they turn 16. After all, that’s just around the corner.
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In summary, while my relationship with swearing has evolved, the lessons I impart to my children about language and context have become far more essential than strict rules. Ultimately, it’s about understanding the impact of words and the appropriateness of using them.