By: Emily Thompson
When I hit 35, something shifted within me. I began prioritizing my own needs, which made motherhood — and life in general — feel significantly lighter. Now at 37, I’m fully embracing the mantra of “I do what I want,” and I can’t help but think this is how I’ll stride confidently into my forties. This newfound perspective might just be the essence of a midlife transition: me waving goodbye to all those unrealistic expectations tied to being a wife and mother. If my thirties are any indication, I eagerly anticipate what lies ahead. Here are six things I’ve gladly let go of:
1. Holding Back My Voice
Growing up, I was told, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” That’s terrible advice, especially for young girls. We exist in a world where public figures can spread negativity and incite harm with abandon. I’m done with that. I have meaningful thoughts to share, and my right to express them outweighs anyone’s desire for my silence.
2. Allowing Others to ‘Mansplain’
Not anymore. I interact with men daily, and more often than not, I find myself on the receiving end of condescending explanations. I’ve made it a point to call this behavior out. I’m a capable woman, and it’s high time for some respect.
3. Neglecting My Own Joys
I’ll indulge in food—not just the low-calorie options, but everything that brings me happiness. Whether it’s enjoying a good meal, sipping wine, or treating myself to those luxurious yet cozy shoes, I’m putting my needs on the table. Regular girls’ nights? Absolutely. I deserve to prioritize my own happiness.
4. Dieting
Unless my doctor advises a dietary change for health reasons, I’m over worrying about my muffin top. And honestly, I couldn’t care less about others’ opinions of my swimwear choices. I refuse to let anyone dictate my fashion choices, be it hoops, hair dye, or comfy leggings.
5. Unfriending Toxic People
I have no qualms about removing negative influences from my social media. I won’t hesitate to unfriend someone who shares racist memes, sexist comments, or tries to sell me something I don’t want. Life is too short for negativity.
6. Addressing Bad Behavior
This skill took time to develop, but it was worth it. My children’s well-being is my top priority, which means I’ll speak up if another child is unkind to mine. And if my child is misbehaving, I welcome feedback! We’re all in this together, striving to raise good people.
Throughout my life, I’ve encountered strong women who exuded confidence, and I used to wonder how they found that strength. Now, in my thirties, I’ve realized that true power comes from within. I can create my own sense of empowerment by establishing boundaries that protect my happiness and self-worth. I’m now one of those women who carries that confidence everywhere, and there’s no turning back.
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In summary, embracing a midlife transition means shedding outdated expectations and prioritizing self-expression and happiness.