As my firstborn approaches her first birthday, I find myself reflecting on the past year—what I wish I had known, what I might do differently in the future, and the advice I would share with other new parents if asked. These musings serve as a reminder to myself during moments of doubt that I am doing my best, and that’s more than enough. Here are some valuable lessons I’ve learned about the first year with my baby:
1. Newborns Aren’t Always a Breeze
I wish I had realized that many other mothers share this sentiment. The whirlwind of emotions that hits you right after giving birth can be overwhelming. You’re expected to feel ecstatic about parenting a brand new human, but that’s a tall order. I often questioned my choices in those early weeks. If there’s a next time, I won’t hesitate to embrace every emotion, whether joyful or not—it’s all part of this life-altering experience.
2. Your Baby Will Be Fed
Whether by breast or bottle, rest assured that your baby will receive the nourishment they need. No matter what feeding method you choose—breast milk, formula, or a mix—don’t let guilt overshadow your decision. The most important thing is that your little one is healthy and thriving.
3. There’s No Universal ‘Moment’
I anticipated a magical moment when my daughter was born, a burst of love and joy. Instead, I felt a wave of relief that labor was over and she was healthy. Days passed without that rush of emotion, leading me to doubt myself. The truth is, every parent experiences that moment differently, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel.
4. The Phrase “It Gets Better” Can Be Tricky
While well-meaning friends and family often tell you it will get better, it can feel dismissive when you’re in the thick of it. Instead of saying “It gets better!” to new parents, I’ve decided to offer genuine support or just a listening ear. The journey is unique, and sometimes it’s more helpful to simply acknowledge the struggle.
5. Seeking Help Is Strength, Not Weakness
This year, I’ve reached out for help more than ever before. Asking for assistance doesn’t signify weakness or incompetence. It just means you’re human. If you see someone in need, extend your hand. You never know how much someone might appreciate it.
6. Time Flies
The first year with your baby zooms by, and it’s easy to overlook the fleeting nature of this time. Cherish both the joyful moments and the challenging ones. Each experience, whether exhausting or exhilarating, contributes to your journey as a parent.
7. Embracing Change Takes Time
A year later, I’m still reconciling the changes in my life. Gone are the days of spontaneous outings; I’m learning to adjust to my new reality as a working mom. I’m also coming to terms with my post-baby body. It’s a continuous process, but I’m making strides toward acceptance.
Like many mothers, I’ve faced challenges during my baby’s first year. However, I’m learning to navigate the ups and downs with grace. With the upcoming toddler years ahead, I know I’ll need to keep adapting and rolling with the punches.
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In summary, the first year of parenting is filled with surprises, challenges, and growth. Embrace every moment, seek support, and remember that you’re not alone on this incredible journey.