As the new school year kicks off, I can’t help but reflect on the chaos of last year. I was nearing the end of my pregnancy with my fourth child while juggling school runs for my other kids at a school that was a solid 25 miles away. If there had been a bus option, I would have jumped at the chance to avoid a headline like “Mom Delivers Baby on the Highway.” Our new home was almost ready, and I figured it was best for the kids to start their education where we’d eventually settle in our new San Diego neighborhood. I was determined to avoid moving schools twice, and I’m thankful I stood my ground. However, once the baby arrived, I found myself stuck in the car during drop-offs and pickups, feeling utterly drained. The idea of getting out felt as daunting as climbing a mountain. Who had the energy for that? The exhaustion took over, and I found myself growing lazy, treating my SUV’s bucket seat like a plush throne.
School drop-offs and pickups were scheduled during my most tired moments, leaving little time or energy to connect with the other moms—be it the sporty moms, the bloggers, the PTA members, or even the not-so-perfect moms. Little did I know how much I was missing out on. If you think you can navigate this motherhood journey alone, think again!
During the Summer Olympics, I kept hearing Maya Angelou’s poem, “Human Family,” echoing between events. “We are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike.” It struck a chord. Despite our individual stories, we all share the common journey of motherhood. Some of us have overcome hurdles, while others have found their path to parenthood smooth. Regardless of how we arrived here—naturally, through C-sections, surrogacy, or adoption—we have all faced challenges. Whether we work or stay home, we have made it to this point, and we are bonded in our experiences.
With that in mind, I encourage all moms to make an effort to step out of the car during school drop-offs and engage with fellow parents. Here are four reasons why you should make this small change this school year:
1. Expand Your Circle
Parenting is tough, and whether you’re a full-time stay-at-home mom or balancing work and family, connecting with other moms can be a lifeline. With two of my four kids in school now, I’ve made it a point to get out of the car and introduce myself to other inspiring moms. I want to know who I can unwind with over a glass of wine, who I can lean on during tough times, and who might need a cheerleader in this wild world of motherhood. And let’s not forget those organized moms who send out timely reminders: “It’s spirit day! Don’t forget to wear school colors!” These parents will be in our lives for the next decade, so building a supportive community is essential.
2. Be the Helping Hand
No mom is flawless, and we all need support. Living far from my family back East, I rely on the parents of my kids’ classmates as my extended family. Whether it’s coordinating school runs, sharing insights about teachers, or exchanging props for theme days, having a network of contacts can be invaluable. Plus, what if someone else needs a helping hand? I want to be that mom who steps up to help out. It’s fulfilling to assist fellow parents, and I hope to be remembered for my willingness to lend support.
3. Cultivate Your Community
Last year, I was in survival mode and didn’t connect with anyone regularly. I couldn’t even remember the names of my kids’ friends’ parents! Now, I’m determined to be part of the community. If I hadn’t stepped out of the car today, I would have missed out on a mom organizing donations for a family in need and the principal’s announcement about a morning running club for parents and kids. I’m all in now—I love being part of this vibrant community!
4. Set an Example
While it’s important for me to feel good about myself, my priorities have shifted. The gym can wait; my kids come first. I want to model engagement for them, showing that being involved in their lives is my top priority. After all, who knows how long they’ll want me around? I cherish those moments when they look up at me and say, “You’re the best, mom.”
I’ve realized that if I can manage to park the car three out of five school days, I’m doing pretty well. Whether it’s lending a hand, volunteering, or simply offering hugs to my little ones, I’m ready to immerse myself in this parenting world. As C.S. Lewis wisely noted, “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.”
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In summary, stepping out of the car during school drop-offs can transform your experience as a mom. It fosters connections, builds a community, and sets a positive example for your kids. Embrace the opportunity to engage with other parents, support one another, and truly enjoy the journey of motherhood.