Not long ago, I found myself in a chaotic state—messy bun, yoga pants that could probably stand on their own, and an old shirt stained with who-knows-what—when my partner walked through the door. Usually, I’d have mumbled an apology for my appearance or the overflowing sink, but that day was different. I was done with the guilt. After surviving countless toddler meltdowns and sleepless nights, I decided to embrace the chaos instead of apologizing for it.
I penned my thoughts, and after submitting them, I was met with a mix of praise and criticism. But you know what? It felt liberating. So, here I am again, ready to share 10 more things moms should stop feeling guilty about. Let’s dive in!
1. Resting Mom Face
You’ve probably heard of “resting bitch face,” but have you encountered “resting mom face”? It’s that look of fierce determination when you’re about to count to three and your kids are still misbehaving. I’ve perfected this look, and you know what? I’m not sorry; it’s my way of maintaining some sanity with my little ones.
2. Chicken Nuggets and Mac and Cheese
Like many parents, I started my journey with grand ideas about nutrition. Fast forward to today, and my kids’ diets are heavily influenced by chicken nuggets and mac and cheese. I do opt for the “organic” options, so that counts, right? If you’re cringing as you read this, relax! They’re happy and healthy, and that’s what matters.
3. Hiding in the Bathroom
When the kids are going wild, I sometimes need to escape and find solace behind the bathroom door. It’s my little sanctuary, where I can pretend I’m at a spa while the chaos rages outside. Don’t judge—sometimes it’s better than unleashing my inner Hulk!
4. Taking Anxiety Meds
Mental health is real, and I’ve learned to prioritize mine. After battling postpartum depression, I sought help and have been on anxiety medication ever since. It’s been a game-changer, and I refuse to apologize for taking care of my mental well-being.
5. Screen Time
There’s a lot of debate about screen time turning kids into mindless zombies. Sure, I felt guilty after letting my kids binge-watch shows, but when my toddler identified a hexagon on a stop sign, I realized that educational moments can come from unexpected places. So, Disney Channel—keep doing your thing!
6. Working
I work because I want to and because I have to. If anyone thinks that means I’m abandoning my kids, they need to think again. Every parent is working hard, regardless of whether they clock in at an office or stay at home.
7. Yelling
I don’t relish yelling at my kids, but sometimes it’s necessary—especially when they decide to go commando in public. I’m not a dictator; I just don’t want a mess on my hands, so sometimes volume is key.
8. Having Opinions
Just because women don’t fit the stereotypical mold doesn’t mean our opinions are any less valid. I love sports and have strong views about them, and I refuse to apologize for speaking my mind. Everyone has a right to their voice, regardless of gender.
9. Being Assertive
Why is it that assertive women are often labeled negatively while men are applauded? Let’s change the narrative. Being assertive means you’re a boss, not a “bitch.” If you can’t handle a strong woman, that’s your issue to work on.
10. Not Caring About Societal Expectations
It’s 2023, and the days of women living solely for others are behind us. We can embrace our individuality without apologies. If my lifestyle doesn’t fit someone else’s comfort zone, that’s not my problem. I’m living for me.
Ladies, we deserve to take up space and not tiptoe around in fear. It’s time to own our lives and choices.
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Summary: Moms are often burdened with guilt for various aspects of their parenting journey, from their appearance to their choices regarding food and screen time. This article discusses ten areas where mothers should stop apologizing, empowering them to embrace their unique experiences and assert their rights without feeling guilty.