The hours from 4 to 7 p.m. can feel like a never-ending battle for parents everywhere. This dreaded time frame doesn’t magically disappear once your little ones start school. Whether it’s due to hunger, exhaustion, or just the overwhelming fatigue of the day, meltdowns are practically guaranteed—myself included.
During this chaotic time, I find myself juggling multiple tasks while my energy levels are at an all-time low. Sound familiar? Let me paint a picture of my evenings: first, I’m tasked with preparing dinner. In our household, it often seems like my kids are snacking non-stop from 3 p.m. until bedtime, which makes the actual dinner feel somewhat redundant. However, I still manage to serve a “real” meal somewhere in that timeline amidst fetching snacks.
Then comes the dreaded clean-up. Dishes pile up in a seemingly never-ending cycle, lunch boxes need to be emptied and re-packed, and toys and clothes are strewn across the floor. I find myself playing the role of a drill sergeant, reminding my kids every ten minutes to tidy up. Plus, there are permission slips to sign, emails to teachers to write, and countless stories from their day that I need to hear. It’s like being a social worker, therapist, and motivational speaker all rolled into one!
And then there’s homework. Ugh, homework. It’s a mutual hatred shared by parents and kids alike. Why do elementary school students even have homework? Research suggests that it might not be very effective in the early years, perhaps aimed at instilling some discipline or self-motivation. But whatever the intention, it often feels futile.
My son is a diligent student, and I appreciate that. However, after spending six hours at school, I completely understand why he’s reluctant to tackle more schoolwork at home. Despite his desire to complete it, getting him to focus can often feel like pulling teeth. What should take a mere 15 minutes can easily stretch into an hour filled with pleading, coaxing, and occasionally resorting to reverse psychology to get him to engage.
Given all the responsibilities I have during those after-school hours, I firmly believe that homework help should not fall on my shoulders. Enter my husband, Jake, a high school English teacher who is used to managing a classroom full of sleepy teens. He often comes home drained but knows his evening duties include taking out the trash, showering our 3-year-old with affection, and, yes, tackling our 9-year-old’s homework.
Jake understands the whirlwind of tasks I have on my plate, so helping with homework is a small part of our teamwork. Though some days can be challenging, especially if both father and son are tired, it can also serve as a bonding experience. They often bond over the quirky math questions that seem to defy logic or turn their assignments into a fun game.
In the grand scheme of things, our division of labor works quite well. While homework may feel like a small piece of hell, my husband knows he’s luckier than I am when it comes to the evening chaos. I recognize how fortunate I am to have a partner who is available and eager to assist with homework. It’s amusing how we even need to mention “helping” in parenting; if your partner is around during those hectic hours, they should undoubtedly pitch in!
As our son steps into fourth grade this year, we hope to gradually encourage him to take more ownership of his homework responsibilities—less nagging from us is the goal. We’ll see how this unfolds, but if it doesn’t go as planned, I know Jake will be right there at the kitchen table again, trying to decipher long division while our son laments the lack of pencil sharpeners in the house. And I’ll be at the sink, tackling yet another load of dishes, glancing over at them, grateful that I’ve left long division behind, and falling deeper in love with my husband for stepping up.
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Summary:
In the chaotic hours of the evening, I rely on my husband for homework help while I manage household tasks. Our partnership allows us to tackle parenting challenges together, and we strive to help our son become more independent with his homework as he progresses through school.