A while back, I was chatting with a friend about the rollercoaster of parenting, the unpredictable twists of life, and the overwhelming chaos of current events. After I poured out my heart about the emotional turmoil and shared my frustrations, she remarked, “I think you might experience feelings more intensely than others.”
Her words resonated deeply. I’m someone who feels things profoundly. By some definitions, I’m labeled as a highly sensitive person (HSP). I’m easily affected by emotions—mine and those of others. I navigate through life with big feelings that touch on every little thing.
For those who don’t share this deep sensitivity, let me offer a glimpse into my world. And for fellow HSPs out there, you’ll understand exactly what I mean.
The Struggles of Deep Sensitivity
Being a deeply feeling individual means grappling with self-doubt and regret frequently. You tend to overanalyze decisions, often revisiting conversations long after they’ve ended, questioning whether you could have responded differently. More often than not, you conclude that you’ve made a mistake.
As a highly empathetic person, your concern spans a wide range of issues—from social justice to the fear of being perceived negatively for minor social faux pas. You might feel frustrated when others don’t seem to care as much as you do, leading you to question why you are so emotionally invested.
You often feel powerless when faced with complex, unresolvable issues. The heartbreak of the world can become overwhelming, and even the smallest inconveniences can weigh heavily on your heart. You might devote yourself to causes you care about, but eventually feel drained, realizing that it’s impossible to tackle every problem alone.
The Gift of Empathy
Empathy goes beyond mere compassion; it’s about experiencing the emotions of others as if they were your own. It’s a call to care for one another, recognizing that we share this journey together. Yet, this can lead to internal conflict, as there are rarely clear-cut answers—only a spectrum of gray that can be confusing. Sometimes, it feels easier to cling to absolutes, shutting out nuanced perspectives to protect your emotional well-being.
Living with such heightened sensitivity can feel like a burden, yet it’s also a profound gift. While my thin skin allows the harsh realities of the world to pierce through—be it news about refugees or the plight of a friend—it also opens me up to joy and kindness. I’ve shed tears of anger over injustice, yet also felt deep warmth during moments of compassion, such as hugging a fellow parent who performed an extraordinary act of kindness. These intense feelings drive me to take action and foster connections with others.
Practicing Self-Care
For those of us who identify as big feelers, practicing self-care is essential. It can help to limit your exposure to distressing news and focus on nurturing relationships with a small circle of close friends rather than larger groups. Seeking therapy or considering medication can also provide support.
Ultimately, I’ve found that embracing self-acceptance is the most powerful tool. I am an overly empathetic, deeply feeling, sensitive individual, and while I sometimes envy those with a tougher exterior, I recognize that this is simply who I am. Author Iain S. Thomas once said, “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard.” This sentiment resonates deeply. Despite the chaos we witness, we choose to remain soft, fighting against bitterness and taking pride in our belief that the world is a beautiful place.
In the end, we channel our emotions into nurturing our children, ensuring that they too feel the beauty and hope that we hold dear.
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Summary
Deep empathy can feel like both a gift and a burden. Individuals who are highly sensitive often experience emotions intensely, leading to self-doubt and overthinking. While being highly empathetic allows for deep connections and understanding, it can also result in feeling overwhelmed by the world’s struggles. Self-care, acceptance, and nurturing close relationships are essential for emotional well-being.