We enter this world fresh-faced, unfiltered, and wholly unconcerned with the opinions of others. Children haven’t been conditioned by societal norms to suppress their feelings, instincts, or individuality. They simply express what they want and need without hesitation. As a parent, I find inspiration in the way my little ones—ages 3 and 4—navigate life, and it’s high time I followed their lead. Here’s how kids teach us to embrace a carefree attitude.
1. Fashion Freedom
My daughter is a master of mixing patterns—think floral and stripes, dots and plaid. She wears whatever outfits strike her fancy, regardless of whether they match. My son opts for shorts worn backward and even occasionally puts his shoes on the wrong feet because he enjoys it. While I might not adopt their styles completely, I’m learning to care less about others’ opinions regarding my wardrobe. If my favorite jeans create a muffin top or my shirt reveals my mom belly, so what? Just like my kids, I’m choosing to wear what I love.
2. Unfiltered Expression
My kids have gone through phases I affectionately term “Broadway moments,” where they sing their wishes and perform expressive dances instead of simply asking for things. Whether it’s a song about wanting mac and cheese or a goofy dance to wind down for bed, they remind me that it’s okay to express ourselves however we see fit. So, the next time your favorite song comes on in the store, don’t be shy—dance like nobody’s watching! Letting loose can be liberating.
3. Trusting Their Instincts
Children are remarkably intuitive. If they cling to a parent around a certain person, there might be a valid reason. As adults, we’re often pressured to overlook our gut feelings in favor of politeness. But children trust their instincts, and so should we. If someone gives you an uncomfortable vibe, it’s completely okay to create distance. Just like kids, we have the right to listen to our feelings.
4. Authenticity Over Approval
One of the greatest gifts of childhood is the ability to be unapologetically oneself. Kids don’t worry about whether others find their conversations—like the latest bathroom humor—appropriate or their outfit stylish. If someone doesn’t appreciate them, they simply move on. Children inherently understand their own worth, and we’d do well to adopt that mindset. Life’s too short to seek validation from others.
5. Brutal Honesty
I recently witnessed a scenario where my friend’s child burst into the room to inform us that my son hit him. When I asked why, my son boldly replied, “I don’t like him!” While hitting isn’t acceptable behavior, I admired his honesty. Sometimes we genuinely don’t like certain people or situations, and it’s okay to voice that. There’s value in sharing our feelings—honesty can spark change and lead to meaningful conversations.
Kids may be seen as too honest, but I believe they simply embody authenticity. There’s no fault in being true to oneself and pursuing happiness. I aim to nurture this fearless attitude in my children while cultivating it in myself.
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In summary, let’s take a page from our kids’ book. Embrace your individuality, trust your instincts, and speak your truth unapologetically. Life is too short to hold back.