Problem-solving is my forte; I thrive on it. The tougher the challenge, the sweeter the reward. Critical thinking, determination, and a sprinkle of good old-fashioned ingenuity have seen me through some of life’s most perplexing scenarios.
And let’s be honest—there’s no better arena to test your problem-solving skills than in parenting. If you relish a challenge, parenthood is the ultimate game. The joy of overcoming a parenting hurdle is like savoring the most delicious chocolate cake—served by Chris Hemsworth, no less!
However, not every battle can be won, and sometimes it’s crucial to accept defeat with grace. There are moments I willingly choose to let things slide; for instance, if you spot my child zooming through the grocery aisle in a swimsuit with combat boots, know that’s a battle I’m not interested in fighting.
Letting him eat soup with a fork, don a Batman mask to preschool, or snooze in his soccer cleats? No problem at all. But when it comes to teaching respect and appropriate behavior, I’m firmly in the ring. For the past few months, I’ve been tackling my son’s nearly relentless challenging behavior.
At nearly three years old, much of what he’s doing is typical for his age. He’s testing boundaries and experiencing emotional outbursts that can be tough to manage. Redirecting him is a workout, and his aggression when things don’t go his way is a new hurdle for me.
I’ve navigated these waters before. I vividly recall the overwhelming sense of defeat as I helped my daughter through her own terrible twos and threenage years. After what felt like an eternity, the storm cleared, and I was rewarded with a sweet, well-behaved girl.
But my son’s aggressive tendencies, mixed with the stubbornness common in toddlers, are proving to be a real challenge. I find myself at a loss, which is unusual for me. I usually thrive on finding new solutions, yet my current strategies seem to fall flat. I’m left feeling worn out and embarrassed by his behavior.
Each day, I sit down with his preschool teacher to discuss his progress. I’m fortunate to have a patient teacher who remains unfazed by the lack of improvement. Despite our best efforts to teach and redirect him, he seems indifferent to our attempts. Our reward system? It barely scratches the surface of encouraging positive behavior.
I could list our attempts, but let’s just say we’ve tried it all. Nothing has yielded results, and my little rascal can sometimes feel like a tiny monster!
During a particularly tough time with my daughter, a friend offered me words I still treasure. “You feel like you’re constantly correcting her behavior because you are,” she said. “That’s what being a good parent is all about. You don’t throw in the towel, even when it feels hopeless. You keep at it, and eventually, they will come around.”
She was spot on. My persistence with my daughter paid off, and I hold onto the hope that the same will be true for my son.
They say repeating the same action and expecting different outcomes is a sign of insanity. Perhaps that’s correct. Maybe I am a bit crazy, but I refuse to give up. I love my son too much to allow him to turn into an uncontrollable whirlwind.
I will continue to teach him right from wrong. I’ll calmly explain the difference every single time. I’ll remain annoyingly consistent and persistent in my responses to his behavior. I’ll work hard to help him understand his emotions and how to express them appropriately.
I’ll keep trying because I am a dedicated mom, and despite appearances, he genuinely is trying to learn. So am I.
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In summary, parenting is a journey full of ups and downs, and even when faced with difficult behavioral issues, it’s essential to stay committed and persistent.