When Tom and I discovered that we were expecting our third child, we were taken aback. We had thought our family was complete, but now we’re eagerly awaiting our newest addition. Once we shared the news with friends and family, it didn’t take long for some of my closest friends to express their excitement about throwing a baby shower for me.
However, before they dive into planning games and picking out themes, I have a heartfelt request: please, no new items. I genuinely mean it.
Having navigated the whirlwind of two babyhoods and all the toddler chaos that followed, I’ve learned what I truly need. I know that items like wipe warmers or baby bidets are unnecessary (and honestly, I won’t be using cloth diapers this time around, anyway). I also understand that co-sleeping will be our approach, making a crib nothing more than a laundry basket—been there, done that!
I won’t be needing items like an umbrella stroller, bottle warmers, or bibs. We are already short on space as it is. Quite frankly, I have lost interest in stylish nurseries filled with brand-new items. The allure of a Pottery Barn nursery is a thing of the past for me. Who in their right mind buys a fluffy white rug for a kid’s room?!
What I truly desire are your gently used items. I want hand-me-downs—those cherished onesies, beloved books, and toys that have stories to tell. I want the treasures you can’t bear to donate but are ready to pass on. It warms my heart to think that your child found joy in these items, and now mine will too. I promise to send you pictures—your love will be woven into my baby’s life.
I cherish the few keepsakes I have from my other children—those items that hold so much sentimental value that parting with them would be heartbreaking. Each piece, from old teddy bears to well-worn blankets, will be preserved for future generations.
As I prepare to welcome my last child, I want to surround this little one with the love and warmth of my amazing mom friends. We are all moving towards new adventures, and I want to cherish this fleeting babyhood as much as possible.
So, dear friends, instead of shopping for new items, please sift through your storage and uncover those old clothes, baby gear, and silly toys. Find a new home for them with us, where they will be cherished and appreciated. I can’t wait to see what you send my way.
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Summary
Expecting baby number three, I’ve learned what I truly need and want—hand-me-downs! Instead of brand-new items, I’m asking friends to share their cherished baby items that carry stories and love. This way, my last child can be surrounded by memories and warmth from my amazing mom friends.