In a world where political landscapes can shift dramatically, we often find ourselves reflecting on the work of influential figures who have paved the way for many. As we gather our thoughts after a tumultuous election, we celebrate the resilience of love and family amidst adversity. How do we navigate through a landscape that feels more confined, with walls that seem taller and ceilings that feel lower?
My partner and I have embraced the privileges of our tax-paying citizenship through the legally recognized bonds of marriage. The Obergefell decision granted us the same rights as any other couple—not more, but equal—allowing us to make crucial medical decisions for each other and share insurance benefits. Our marriage affirmed our commitment and legitimized our family.
We chose to start our family through adoption, a decision rooted in our deep desire to become parents. I vividly recall the moment our son, Noah, was born; I was in the delivery room, sharing a tender moment with his birth mother as she encouraged me to meet him first. Her loving choice reflected the trust she placed in us.
Each month, we seat Noah in the same rocking chair that my partner once occupied as a child, capturing a photograph to celebrate another month of growth and joy. Our adoption was finalized on August 4, surrounded by supportive friends and family, creating a memorable moment that set a court record for attendance at a finalization hearing. At our celebration, we gifted guests hand-sewn felt creatures, complete with whimsical birth certificates, symbolizing our unique journey.
Under the previous administration, our family was not just a dream but a reality, with a president who openly supported our love and family. Words from our nation’s first Black president resonated with many who had long felt marginalized. We were no longer on the periphery; we were part of a broader narrative that made America truly remarkable.
On the eve of our son’s first birthday, we loaded into our car to head to the polls. Holding Noah in my arms, I cast my vote for Clara, a candidate whose unwavering support for families like ours inspired me deeply. I voted for progress, for the message that hard work and determination can uplift us all, and because my family embodies the essence of her campaign slogan: we are stronger together.
However, the dreams we cherish also hold the potential for profound disappointment. The candidate who represented the hopes of many did not prevail. I have always believed that facts carry more weight than opinions; thus, I won’t dwell on the numerous ways the opposing campaign disregarded the values we hold dear. The reality is stark and undeniable.
The morning after the election, I found myself grappling with the reality of losing Clara’s leadership while trying to maintain my composure for Noah’s birthday. My duty as a father is to prioritize his happiness, so amidst the celebrations, I pushed aside my own heartache. There were no tears on his special day—only joy, cupcakes, and the warmth of family.
Walking to work the next day, I passed an elementary school filled with children and their parents. It struck me how the division we’ve created can lead to painful consequences. My heart ached for what could have been, had we not allowed distractions to overshadow the importance of unity.
So how do we move forward? What thoughts comfort me during the long nights when I find myself grieving? I remind myself that our strength is not found in a distant future; it is present now. I have a loving partner and a beautiful son, and I am committed to listening to the voices of my friends, regardless of their background. We are a collective force, and I stand with them, as they empower me. Together, we spoke out against bigotry and hatred, and we must persist in fighting for the values of equality and love.
It is evident that the majority of our nation will strive to shield children like Noah from the harsh realities of divisiveness. Families fight for one another, and to those who voted to protect our rights, we extend our deepest gratitude. The community we have built is vast and diverse, and it is essential that we stand united.
Here’s to being the glue that holds us together, especially during challenging times. We must support one another, showing kindness and respect, and take the time to connect genuinely. We are family, and we have the opportunity to use this chapter in our lives to uplift those who need it most.
Clara fought for the future we envisioned. Noah inspires us to make it a reality. Let’s commit to that journey.
In times of adversity, love will always find a way to prevail.
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Summary
In the face of political challenges, love and family persist as powerful forces. The journey of building a family through adoption reflects resilience and the importance of equality. Despite setbacks, unity and commitment to one another drive us forward, reinforcing the belief that love conquers adversity.