While there are certainly mothers who choose not to breastfeed for various personal reasons, it’s important to recognize that their decisions deserve respect and understanding. A mother who opts out of breastfeeding is no less nurturing than one who embraces it. However, many mothers enter motherhood with the sincere intention to breastfeed, and sadly, many find themselves unable to achieve their goals.
A 2012 study in Pediatrics indicated that 85% of mothers plan to exclusively breastfeed for at least three months. Yet, the statistics tell a different story. According to the 2014 Breastfeeding Report Card from the CDC, 79% of mothers initiate breastfeeding, but by three months, only 40% are breastfeeding exclusively, and by six months, that number drops to a mere 18%. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months, so why are so many mothers struggling?
The issues surrounding breastfeeding often lead to the question: Are mothers failing, or is the system failing them? As a mother of two who has navigated the challenges of breastfeeding and a lactation consultant with years of experience, I can confidently say that, in most cases, it is not the mothers or their babies who fall short; it’s the lack of adequate support that leads to these difficulties.
Before anyone raises their eyebrows, I want to clarify that biological issues can arise. While breastfeeding is a natural process, it doesn’t always go smoothly. Factors like low milk supply or latch problems can complicate the journey. However, there are solutions available for most of these situations. For instance, mothers who have difficulty producing enough milk can often combine breastfeeding with supplementation to ensure their babies receive the nourishment they need. I’ve worked with mothers who have unique challenges, such as having only one functional breast or producing only partial amounts of milk, and they’ve found ways to define their own success.
Even babies facing anatomical challenges, like tongue ties or cleft palates, can often breastfeed with the right interventions and knowledge. The issue is that many mothers simply don’t know where to find support. Financial barriers can also limit access to quality care, and the assistance they need may not be adequately covered by insurance. Additionally, the demands of everyday life can make it difficult for mothers to focus on resolving breastfeeding challenges.
After leaving the hospital, many mothers find that breastfeeding at home is a different experience altogether. They may face issues like engorgement or delayed milk production, leading to fussy babies. It’s completely normal for breastfeeding to be challenging in those early weeks, and it often requires patience and time spent nursing.
Breastfeeding is indeed a natural process, but it also involves a learning curve for both mother and baby. Success often hinges on having a strong support system—something many new mothers lack. It’s no surprise that many give up in the initial weeks when they feel isolated and overwhelmed.
In other countries, mothers are afforded the time and community support to heal and learn how to breastfeed effectively. They benefit from government programs that assist with household tasks and provide breastfeeding support. In contrast, many mothers in our system return to work shortly after giving birth, leaving little room for the necessary adjustments to breastfeeding.
To any mother who feels she has “failed” at breastfeeding, I want to reassure you: You did not fail. You put in the effort and wanted it to work. The truth is, you nourished your baby in the best way you could, and you bonded just as deeply as any breastfeeding mom. It’s unfortunate that you didn’t receive the help, time, and encouragement you deserved.
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Summary:
This article emphasizes that many mothers feel they have failed at breastfeeding when, in reality, the lack of support from the system is often to blame. It highlights the importance of community and resources in helping mothers achieve their breastfeeding goals, while also acknowledging the natural challenges that can arise.