Parenting
Cheers to Dads Raising Their Sons to Be Kind and Respectful Men
by Sarah Mitchell
Updated: November 23, 2023
Originally Published: November 23, 2023
Photo Credit: oliveromg/Shutterstock
In the chaotic landscape of 2023, it’s difficult to find silver linings, but one stands out: an increased awareness of the pressing issues our society faces. Like that bright light an aesthetician uses to uncover blemishes during a facial, the harsh realities of sexism and misogyny are impossible to ignore. When cases like that of Brock Turner showcase leniency towards serious crimes, or when our leaders openly discuss inappropriate behavior, it becomes clear that we must confront the ugly truths of our culture.
Recently, I’ve heard impassioned discussions about the impact of these societal issues on our daughters. Mothers express their fears for their girls, and fathers of daughters voice their disbelief. But amidst all the outcry, I find myself pondering the implications for my husband and me as parents of boys.
As a woman, I’ve experienced the sting of workplace harassment and the discomfort of being objectified. I may not have faced sexual assault directly, but countless women I know have. Yet, as a mother to boys, I refuse to believe that their gender is to blame. They, too, navigate a world steeped in sexism. While they may not be the direct victims, we would be naive to think the harmful stereotypes don’t affect them. It’s crucial to acknowledge that sexism impacts everyone, and we all share the responsibility of reshaping the deeply embedded narratives in our society.
As Steven I. Weiss eloquently expressed in an op-ed for the Los Angeles Times, “While fathers of daughters may feel a personal sense of outrage, it’s the fathers of sons who can truly help mitigate or end the misogyny that still taints our culture.” He presents statistics that highlight the prevalence of sexism and harassment, but he also makes a poignant statement: “As a father of sons, it’s my responsibility to help fix these problems.” Weiss emphasizes the importance of discussing women’s historical challenges with our children, something I wholeheartedly agree with.
Reading this, I felt a surge of hope. It’s easy to voice outrage, but it’s far more difficult to take responsibility for fostering change. While we should definitely express our anger—because it’s justified—we must also focus on actionable steps. Change doesn’t come from mere words; it arises from consistent, progressive actions.
It’s one thing to instruct boys on how to behave; it’s entirely another to model what it means to be a good man. Anyone can decry injustice, but it’s vital for fathers to embody these ideals in their daily lives. For example, my husband doesn’t just tell our sons to respect women; he demonstrates it through his actions. He praises my professional achievements in front of them, emphasizes the importance of consent, and shows vulnerability by allowing himself to cry. He constantly reminds them that they must actively combat misogyny, even if it means having uncomfortable conversations with peers.
While I’m proud of my husband, he’s just one of many fathers committed to raising compassionate sons. Across the nation, there are fantastic dads who are cultivating feminist-minded boys and breaking the cycle of misogyny. We need to shine a light on these positive influences and recognize how men can shape the behavior of other men, including their own sons.
So here’s to all the amazing dads out there teaching their sons the values of respect and equality. Here’s to men who change diapers without seeking praise and who express gratitude for their partners’ contributions. Here’s to those who cry openly and encourage their sons to do the same. Here’s to the dads who embrace the label of feminist, not just in words but through their everyday actions.
Good and decent men, we see you and appreciate you. Your efforts are crucial in shaping a future filled with even more respectful and kind individuals. Together, we can tackle the pervasive issues of misogyny that affect us all.
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Summary:
This piece celebrates fathers who are dedicated to raising their sons to be respectful and kind men in a society often marred by sexism. It emphasizes the importance of modeling behavior rather than merely instructing, highlighting the critical role fathers play in shaping the next generation’s understanding of equality and respect.