Parenting
Why I Feel No Regrets About Treating Myself
by Jake Thompson
Updated: Feb. 4, 2017
Originally Published: November 24, 2016
Children can be quite the financial burden. And not just “Wow, I didn’t see that coming!” burden, but more like “Do I really need to sell a kidney for this?” burden. They cost so much that you start to wonder about your life choices: “What would life be like without kids? Maybe I’d have my own private island!” or “If I didn’t have kids, I’d be rolling in cash like a cartoon character!”
If it weren’t for my two little ones, I could easily see myself living in my parents’ shed, accumulating my DINK (Dual Income No Kids) wealth, or perhaps producing a series of films centered around adventurous squirrels. But here I am, knee-deep in the realities of parenthood, where my kids constantly require essentials — from food and clothing to healthcare and education. By the time we manage to provide for them, we’re often left with little to nothing for ourselves. And let’s be real: it feels like the list of their needs is never-ending. Even when I’m gone, my kids will probably be scavenging through my pockets for spare change.
That’s why I make it a point to save a little cash for myself. I work hard for my earnings, and I believe I deserve to enjoy them. Of course, I ensure my kids have what they need — like that allergy medicine and his favorite fruit snacks, or maybe even a new toy. But once I’ve taken care of their needs, the remaining cash is mine to spend as I please!
Here are 13 indulgences I refuse to feel guilty about purchasing because, let’s face it, I’ve earned it:
- Beer: If anyone should feel guilty, it’s the kids who drive me to drink!
- Bourbon: Refer to my previous point.
- Wine: Same here.
- Vodka: This one’s for my wife!
- Shake Shack: Who can resist a good burger?
- Beer at Shake Shack: Maybe I have a slight problem.
- Movie tickets: I avoid this because it means hiring a babysitter, which I refuse to do! This isn’t guilt; it’s activism.
- Concert tickets: Same babysitter dilemma — no thanks!
- Pizza: Honestly, I worry more about our pizza habit than our drinking, but no guilt here!
- Books: Wait, do I need a new bookshelf?
- Library Late Fees: Yup, this one hits home.
- Music: Essential for my sanity, especially with noisy kids around.
- Babysitters: Sometimes, you just need a break!
Being a parent brings a lot of challenges and things to feel guilty about, but treating myself to some little pleasures in life isn’t one of them. I’ll reserve my guilt for things that truly matter, like my unused gym membership or renting films that star actors I’m not fond of.
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Summary:
Navigating the financial demands of parenting can feel overwhelming, but treating oneself is not something to feel guilty about. After ensuring children have their basic needs met, parents deserve to indulge in small luxuries, whether it’s a night out or a favorite beverage. Prioritizing personal enjoyment helps balance the stresses of parenthood.