Dec. 3, 2016
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In my younger days, I often felt out of sync with the world around me. I found little joy in parties, usually felt the urge to leave gatherings early, and secretly celebrated when social plans fell through. Was I overly shy or just unfriendly? As it turns out, I was simply an introvert—someone who enjoys socializing, but prefers it in smaller, more intimate settings. Once I accepted this about myself, life became significantly more manageable and enjoyable.
However, entering motherhood added a new layer of complexity to my social life. As a full-time stay-at-home mom during my first child’s early years, I yearned for companionship despite my introverted nature. The friendships I cultivated during this period have become some of my most valuable connections. Yet, navigating the realm of mom friendships as an introvert came with its own set of challenges. Here’s what I discovered along the way:
Quality Over Quantity in Friendships
As introverts, we often understand our social limits better than we realize, though society may push us to ignore them. Some of us thrive with just one or two close friends, while others may desire a larger circle, albeit with a preference for one-on-one interactions. Remember, motherhood often shifts our priorities; it can be draining to maintain multiple deep relationships while caring for young children. And that’s perfectly fine.
Resist the Pressure for Endless Playdates
I once knew a mom, Sarah, who scheduled multiple playdates in a single day. I simply couldn’t fathom that approach. After just one playdate, both my child and I were exhausted! I needed at least a day or two to recharge. It’s important to honor your needs—no need for shame here.
Seek Uplifting Connections
With motherhood came heightened selectivity regarding who I let into my life. The early days were filled with uncertainties, and I sought friends who would lift my spirits and empower me. It was equally crucial to find those who understood my occasional need for solitude without judgment.
Balancing Social Needs for You and Your Kids
As my children grew, they often craved more social interaction than I could comfortably manage. While they needed playdates, I had to ensure my own needs were met too. For instance, if they wanted four playdates in a week, we compromised on two. I also encouraged my partner to step in for events I found overwhelming, allowing me some much-needed time to recharge.
Online Friendships Are Valid
Some of my closest relationships have blossomed online. These connections, often forged through shared interests in motherhood, can be just as meaningful as those made in person. For introverts, engaging with friends online can provide a more comfortable avenue for social interaction.
Recognizing that your friendships may look different from others is vital, particularly as an introverted mom. Avoid placing undue pressure on yourself to conform to societal expectations or over-schedule your family to the point of stress. You have the right to define your own experience of motherhood, including how social it feels. While we all benefit from companionship during our parenting journeys, what matters most is finding friends who accept us for who we are.
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Summary
This guide explores how introverted mothers can successfully navigate friendships in motherhood. It emphasizes the importance of quality relationships over quantity, the necessity of taking breaks from socializing, and the validation of online friendships. Ultimately, it encourages moms to embrace their unique social needs without succumbing to external pressures.