Last Tuesday, I had the pleasure of watching my son, Lucas, participate in his school’s spelling bee. Let me tell you, seeing a group of 15 fourth and fifth graders spell words like “quash” and “marionette” in front of a packed auditorium is an exhilarating, nerve-wracking experience. Lucas ended up taking first place, and while I was incredibly proud of his achievement, it was his display of kindness that brought tears to my eyes.
After each child finished their turn, Lucas was there, high-fiving them and offering a warm thumbs-up. One student even shed a few tears on stage, and Lucas gently squeezed her arm and whispered comforting words. In that moment, I couldn’t help but think, maybe I did something right in raising him.
We all aspire for our children to flourish and become happy, contributing members of society. The question is, how do we guide them? Our children come into the world with open hearts, and it’s our responsibility to mold them with care. For me, the most important value I want to instill in Lucas is kindness. I want him to look beyond his own needs and reach out to those who are struggling. I want him to understand empathy and compassion and to incorporate these qualities into his daily life.
Kindness Benefits Our Kids
Kindness isn’t just a gift for others; it benefits our kids too. Research shows that being kind can significantly enhance their emotional and physical health. In a study conducted in Vancouver, 9- to 11-year-olds were asked to complete three acts of kindness per week for four weeks. The results were remarkable; the children reported feeling happier and experienced improved peer acceptance, which can help reduce bullying.
Moreover, kindness has a profound effect on our brain chemistry. Dr. Sarah Martinez, author of The Effects of Kindness, explains that expressing kindness boosts dopamine (the happiness hormone) and oxytocin (often referred to as the love hormone). This not only promotes a positive mood but also supports cardiovascular health and may even slow aging. Who wouldn’t want that?
The Impact of Unkindness
On the flip side, research reveals the harmful impact of unkindness. A study published in The American Journal of Psychiatry found that kids subjected to verbal bullying can experience psychological distress akin to that caused by parental abuse. Bullying in school can have as significant an effect on a child’s mental health as abuse at home.
Thus, how our children interact with others—at school, home, or in the community—is crucial. We must take this seriously. The old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is misleading. We need to raise children who are aware of the power of their words and actions, encouraging them to be kind to everyone they encounter.
Encouraging Kindness
If you think the world has enough negativity, we must ensure we don’t contribute to it through our parenting. Want your child to be happy, healthy, and well-adjusted? Prioritize kindness in your teachings.
Start today. As you send your kids off to school, don’t just remind them to focus on their studies or finish their lunch. Encourage them to be kind. Suggest they invite a classmate who’s sitting alone to join them. Encourage them to hold open doors, offer unsolicited praise, smile often, and report any bullying they witness, big or small.
The future generation needs to be equipped with courage and compassion to counteract hate. This starts at home, with us as role models for our children. We have the potential to create a kinder world, one child at a time.
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Summary
Promoting kindness in children is crucial for their emotional and physical well-being. Research highlights that acts of kindness improve happiness, peer acceptance, and even brain chemistry. Conversely, unkindness can lead to severe psychological effects, similar to abuse. By modeling and instilling kindness, we can raise empathetic and compassionate individuals, contributing positively to society.