By: Jamie Carter
Updated: Dec. 15, 2016
Originally Published: Dec. 6, 2016
Oh, how we adore our girl, Jamie! She’s fierce, she once owned a dog named Trouble, and she seems like the kind of mom we’d all want to hang out with. So when she recently posted a photo of herself at her microwave, sipping on a cup of decaf and referring to it as a “rest stop,” we couldn’t help but think, “You go, girl!” But, of course, not everyone shared that enthusiasm. Enter the mommy shamers, ready to unleash their judgments at the speed of light.
At first glance, there’s nothing about Jamie’s Instagram post that warrants criticism. And even on a second or third look, it’s hard to find a flaw. But some folks seem to possess a special shaming power that compels them to comment negatively rather than engage in a hobby or pick up a new skill. Personally, I find solace in reading—but I digress.
Jamie, expecting her second child, shared the image to connect with other moms who simply want to take a moment to enjoy a quiet cup of coffee. But the internet? It was not having it. Here’s a glimpse of some of the comments she faced on her Instagram and on a prominent morning show’s Facebook page after they shared the same photo.
“Three doctors told me coffee is coffee, decaf or not… I just stayed away from anything that may disturb my baby’s growth.”
Um, okay? While it’s great to have strong opinions, describing decaf as an “addictive stimulant” may need a little reconsideration. This commenter clearly loves her kids, but it seems she’s also got a bit of judgment to spare.
“It’s one thing that she’s drinking coffee but microwaving it? That can’t be good for the baby.”
Let’s just say that science doesn’t support the idea that microwaved milk is harmful to fetuses.
“Why is the microwave so low?”
Because that’s where people with busy lives put their microwaves! Seriously, can we focus on something more important?
“Can I give you a solid? Don’t microwave anything! All food/drinks lose their essence after microwaving for more than 60 seconds.”
Wow. First of all, how does one expect a busy mom to function without a microwave? We have mere minutes to eat our meals! And the “essence” of decaf? It’s just a reminder of the coffee we’re missing—nothing that gets passed through the placenta.
So, Jamie—keep doing your thing. Enjoy your decaf coffee. And to the mommy shamers out there, perhaps it’s time to channel that energy into something constructive. Maybe you could join a Zumba class at your local community center? That way, you can think about microwaved milk while shaking it on the dance floor!
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In summary, let’s remember that everyone’s parenting journey is unique. So, let’s support each other rather than shame one another for our choices.