I genuinely believe that every child, even those as young as 3 or 4, deserves thoughtful answers to their endless “why” questions. It can be draining to engage with each inquiry, but in my mind, kids should be treated with the same respect we give to adults when they seek information.
However, my heart knows that while I aspire to answer each “why,” there are moments when I simply lack the time, energy, or even the inclination to provide a comprehensive response. In those instances, I often resort to the phrase, “Because I said so.”
Honestly, I dislike saying it. It feels like a cop-out, as if my children aren’t worthy of a proper explanation. It feels like I’m just trying to hurry them along so we can get on with our day. But sometimes, that’s just the reality of parenting.
Real-Life Examples
Take mornings, for example. We’re racing against the clock to make it to a doctor’s appointment, and when they ask, “Why do we have to go?” I’d love to explain how doctors help us stay healthy and strong. Instead, I find myself uttering, “Because I said so. Now, let’s go!”
Or consider bedtime. After a long evening routine, I’m ready to turn off the lights and close the door when the familiar question arises: “Mom, why can’t we keep snacks in our bed?” My mind wants to dive into a detailed discussion about crumbs, cleanliness, and insects, but it’s way past their bedtime. Instead, I simply say, “Because I said so,” as I shut the door behind me.
I fully understand the importance of explaining my decisions so my children can learn patience and reasoning for the future. I wish I could respond thoughtfully every single time, but let’s face it—kids ask a lot of questions, and at times, my patience runs thin.
The Balance of Authority
Moreover, there’s a layer of parental authority to consider. As my friend Dave from the neighborhood puts it, “Respect my authority!” There’s a right moment for questions, and if I’ve already made a decision, it’s crucial for kids to understand the need to follow through. We have a lifetime for deep discussions, but right before school starts isn’t the best time for it.
With sincerity, I hope my kids will ask fewer “why” questions as they grow, but that those they do ask will carry more depth and significance. For instance, “Why can’t I color on the bathroom wall?” is a far cry from “Why does my friend have two dads?”
I also hope to find more patience in our conversations moving forward. For now, though, my little ones, aged 3 and 4, must learn the balance between inquiry and obedience. There’s a time for questions and a time for simply following Mom’s lead because, well, I said so.
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In summary, while I strive to answer my kids’ questions with care, the realities of parenting sometimes mean I have to rely on “Because I said so.” It’s a balancing act of authority and understanding, ensuring they know there’s a time for everything.