Hey Dads,
As you may have noticed, us moms often find ourselves deep in conversation about the ups and downs of motherhood with fellow moms. We gather in online communities to share our experiences, create support groups, and consume countless blog posts that remind us we’re not alone in our challenges.
Unfortunately, you dads are frequently left out of that conversation, even though your role is incredibly significant in our lives. We chat about what you do well and what we wish you’d do more of, but you often miss out on that insight. And honestly, that’s tough on all of us.
So, let’s break it down, Dads. If you ever wonder what your partner really needs from you, here’s the scoop:
Give Her Time to Recharge.
One of the best gifts you can give your partner is the chance to have some time alone. I’m not talking about errands like grocery shopping (unless that’s her thing). I mean genuine free time without family or household responsibilities. Even if you both share chores and childcare fairly, she likely feels the weight of those duties more acutely, especially when she’s at home. Assure her that the kids will be well cared for in your hands and encourage her to enjoy some guilt-free time to herself—whether that’s browsing in Target, catching a movie, or indulging in a manicure.
Create a Calm Space.
This is the flip side of the first point, but just as essential. Sometimes, moms of young kids just want quiet solitude in a tidy house. If you can help clean up and then take the kids out for a few hours, you’ll be amazed at how much joy that brings her.
Share Household Duties Equally.
If your partner seems stressed, it could be because managing a household while raising children is a massive, ongoing, and unpaid job. Whether she’s working outside the home or staying home with the kids, it’s sensible to divide household responsibilities more evenly. Pick a few tasks you don’t mind taking over—trust me, you’ll look incredibly attractive to her when you’re doing the dishes or preparing a meal.
Show Your Appreciation.
Even if circumstances prevent you from helping as much as you’d like, it’s easy to express gratitude. Being a mom and managing a household is a lot of work, often without recognition. It’s virtually impossible to tell her too often how much you appreciate her and the effort she puts into your family. Make it a habit to tell her she’s amazing—loudly and often.
Capture Memories Together.
Make it a routine to snap pictures of your partner with the kids, both individually and as a group. She probably has countless photos of just the kids and maybe a few with you, but capturing moments of her with them is a precious gift for both her and the kids.
Remind Her She’s Beautiful.
Motherhood can alter a woman’s perception of herself in numerous ways. While I believe it enhances her beauty, society often sends different messages. It’s crucial for her to hear that you find her attractive—not just when she’s dressed up or when the mood strikes. Compliment her when she’s lounging in pajamas, looking relaxed and natural; those words mean the world to her.
Every woman is unique, so use your judgment with these suggestions. However, most of them resonate universally. If you want to truly impress your partner, don’t wait for her to ask. Being proactive is key.
None of these actions are monumental, but each one can greatly enhance your relationship. Choose a few, implement them regularly, and watch your partner light up. Seriously, you’ll be amazed.
Sincerely,
Your New Best Friend
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In summary, Dads, understanding and supporting your partner through small yet impactful gestures can strengthen your relationship and create a happier home environment.