By: Jamie Anderson
Date: Dec. 24, 2016
I have to admit, the world of acting is not for me. I’m far too self-aware for that. While I enjoy watching films and shows, and appreciate the talents of actors, stepping into the spotlight is outside my comfort zone—though no one has ever asked me to try!
But my 6-year-old, on the other hand, might just be a future star. Not necessarily because he’s a master of pretend (although he is), or a talented fibber (he’s working on it), but because he simply loves to perform! And I mean that in the most dramatic sense possible.
This morning was a perfect example: he was devastated when I mistakenly handed him his mother’s socks, which are nearly identical to his own, except for a hint of pink. Pink is a major no-no in his world! Despite my efforts to raise him without the usual gender stereotypes that can limit how boys see themselves, the “Ew! Girls!” phase is in full swing right now.
But shame? That’s not a feeling my son seems to know. Well, that’s not entirely accurate. He does have his shy moments, like avoiding conversation with new people or shying away from being the center of attention—he even turned down an opportunity to be an extra in an HBO show filmed nearby. Yet, somehow, he has no qualms about throwing epic tantrums in public places like stores, restaurants, and parks.
The lack of self-consciousness is astounding. While I believe that walking through life without shame can be empowering (with some exceptions, of course), part of me wishes he would realize just how embarrassing his outbursts can be. These dramatic displays really need to tone down.
What’s more, it seems he often brings on the theatrics for an audience. Bumps his knee? Drama time! Drops his mini muffins? Drama time! Almost trips? You guessed it—drama time! I haven’t heard this much exaggerated wailing since that TV show about teenage werewolves, which I never watched but can only imagine was filled with melodrama.
As with many aspects of parenting, the challenge lies in distinguishing my age-based expectations from the valid reasons behind his behavior. At 6 years old, it’s easy to think he should have outgrown these tantrums (and I admit, in my worst moments, I have used some colorful language!). However, with a new baby in the house, it’s understandable that he might feel a bit left out.
He adores his baby brother, and their age gap allows for a peaceful coexistence—at least for now—without too much competition over toys or TV shows. However, he’s not so independent that he can exist without my attention, and the arrival of a new sibling naturally shifts the focus away from him.
It’s easy to overlook that, even though he can play by himself for a bit, he’s still just a little kid. After five years as the center of our universe, the adjustment to sharing that spotlight can be tough. So, a little volatility is to be expected, but I wish it were just a bit less dramatic, less public, and less frequent. But we’re getting there.
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In summary, while my son’s flair for the dramatic can be challenging, it’s also a reminder of how kids express their emotions and navigate changes in their world. Parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs, and this little drama king is teaching me patience every day.