As a mother, I’m supposed to feel gratitude for the incredible things my body has accomplished, but I can’t help but feel a twinge of disappointment when I catch a glimpse of my sagging chest, stretched belly, and emerging jowls in the mirror. Society often tells us that “good moms” should wear their imperfections like badges of honor, but that just isn’t me. I’m ready for a cosmetic transformation, and I’m not waiting any longer.
It’s not just about wanting perky breasts; I’m looking for a complete body makeover—what some refer to as a “mommy makeover.” As a strong, outspoken feminist, I embraced my sexuality before kids, and I want to reclaim that feeling. These days, I find myself feeling less than sexy. I’m not insecure; I simply want my body to reflect the vibrant woman I know I am. Yet, expressing this desire has led some to label me as a “bad feminist,” echoing sentiments that Madonna shared recently.
The notion that women should forgo makeup, slim figures, or stylish lingerie to feel confident feels misguided. While I recognize the pitfalls of objectifying women, I’m not doing that to myself. When I see celebrities like Mia with her stunning physique or Tara with her captivating curves, I don’t see unattainable standards; I see inspiration. Why shouldn’t we appreciate the diverse beauty of the female form? For me, it’s about wanting a strong and fit body. This isn’t about catering to the male gaze; it’s about aspiring to what I find attractive.
Whether it’s getting fit like a celebrity trainer or adopting a wholesome plant-based diet for an energy boost, I celebrate those choices. Personally, I’m aiming for a toned physique with lifted breasts. Achieving this will likely involve a combination of workouts, healthy eating, and perhaps even some surgical enhancements.
Being a contemporary feminist means making choices about our bodies without judgment. Yet, outdated ideas persist that suggest a woman can’t be a true feminist if she chooses to stay at home or undergo cosmetic surgery. I reject that notion. A woman who invests in herself, even if it means spending on aesthetic enhancements, is just as empowered as any historical feminist icon. It’s all about the freedom to choose.
The decisions I make every day demonstrate to my children what feminism looks like in practice. I chose to be a stay-at-home mom when my kids were little, and when I decided to return to work, it was driven by my passion for writing, showing my kids that it’s never too late to follow your dreams. When I got a tattoo at 37, it was a way for them to see me express my individuality and joy through art. If I opt for a tummy tuck, it won’t signify insecurity; it will showcase my autonomy over my body and my right to decide how I want to look.
Women have fought hard for our voices to be heard and for our choices to be respected. You may perceive my aspirations as superficial or frivolous, but at the end of the day, I’ll have the body I want, and that’s what matters.
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In conclusion, wanting to enhance my body does not diminish my feminist beliefs. It reinforces my right to make choices that are best for me, showing my kids that empowerment comes in many forms.