Every year, my mother gifted me a day she called a “mental health day.” It was a delightful escape from school where we would spend quality time together, doing anything I wanted. Whether it was a fun outing to the mall for some window shopping and lunch, a cozy day in our pajamas watching movies, or a lovely picnic in the park, these days became cherished memories that I looked forward to and hold dear.
There wasn’t a set date for these days; my mom simply had a knack for knowing when I needed a break. Kids, like adults, require time to decompress. Although their challenges may not mirror the stressors of adult life, they still face difficulties that can feel overwhelming. While we often reminisce about our easy childhood, it’s essential to acknowledge that being a child comes with its own set of struggles. When things get tough, kids sometimes feel the need to pretend they are unwell to take a breather.
I truly believe in the revitalizing power of an unexpected day off, which is why I’ve embraced the “mental health day” tradition for my four children. I can tell when they’re feeling the pressure—maybe they’ve had a spat with a friend or show unusual hesitation to rise for school. When they seem drained, a day off is exactly what they need. They get to choose how to spend it, and surprisingly, their requests are often simple. “Can we play video games today, Mom?” or “Let’s go to the store for snacks!” are common suggestions.
While our definitions of fun may differ, witnessing their joy and relief is worth every minute I spend immersed in a Minecraft marathon. Their transformation is evident. These days not only provide a break from their routines, but they also foster meaningful one-on-one time with me. They blossom like flowers after a long drought, rejuvenated and enthusiastic.
Finding quality time can be a challenge, especially in larger families like mine. But when I take one of my kids out of school, they have my undivided attention. We share hours filled with laughter and conversation, allowing me to rediscover just how wonderful my kids truly are. It’s easy to become caught up in the daily grind and overlook these amazing little individuals, but when I focus on them, they never fail to astonish me.
I understand the importance of taking a step back occasionally, and I want my kids to grasp that self-care is vital. I hope that through our special days together, they learn the significance of prioritizing their mental health over other responsibilities and, equally important, that I love them and cherish our time together.
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In summary, allowing my children to take mental health days is not just about fun—it’s about nurturing their emotional well-being and reinforcing the value of time spent together. It’s a practice that supports their growth and reminds them that their feelings matter.