Last month, my daughter’s pre-K class assigned a diorama project, and I’ll be honest: my initial reaction was, “Oh no, just what I need—another item for my to-do list! And why did I toss that shoebox?” Fortunately, I managed to snag another shoebox (my kids’ feet grow like weeds!), and an important realization hit me. This was an art project for 4-year-olds, and it didn’t need to be extravagant or overwhelming. I simply needed to explain the assignment to my daughter and use whatever supplies we had lying around the house.
The kids were learning about habitats—the various places where living things thrive. I encouraged my daughter to choose a location, and she pragmatically picked our living room. She asked her dad to sketch out the walls, furniture, and even the fishbowl perched on the shelf. Then, she scoured the house for her small toys to represent the inhabitants of her chosen habitat and requested I secure them inside the box with tape. While it seemed a bit odd to send her off with a shoebox filled with toys, to her, it was a masterpiece filled with meaning.
It was her creation, showcasing what matters most to her. In a way, it was mesmerizing, reminiscent of a quirky Dali painting—think a tiny plastic purple croc affixed to the wall and a Shopkin dangling from the ceiling.
However, when we arrived at school to drop off her diorama, I was taken aback by the other creations. Many were larger, flashier, and far more intricate than what she had made. One featured a frog habitat, complete with felt lily pads and a list of fascinating frog facts. Another showcased a handmade bird’s nest and what appeared to be real blue jay eggs.
A couple of dioramas had that unmistakable touch of a pre-K student—messy scribbles and crooked glue jobs—but most looked like they could be featured on that one site we all love to scroll through. It was clear that, at just 4 years old, these kids couldn’t possibly have done it all on their own. I recognized that my daughter needed my assistance with some elements, but stepping into her classroom felt like entering a gallery that displayed the talents of parents masquerading as children.
Before I spiraled into a mental rant about helicopter parenting and what’s wrong with “parents these days,” I took a moment to ponder my irritation. I completely understand the urge to dive into our kids’ art projects, science assignments, and anything they endeavor to do. There’s a deep-seated desire for perfection, and it’s tough to accept the end results when they don’t match our vision.
Additionally, getting a young child to complete a project on a deadline can be incredibly frustrating. Sometimes, it’s simply easier to take the reins ourselves. And let’s be honest: trusting a child under 7 with arts and crafts supplies can be a risky endeavor—especially when glue or glitter are involved! (Just to be clear, we have a strict no-glitter policy in our home.)
At the core of this issue, I believe, is the desire for our children to shine—to have the standout project that impresses everyone. After all, when our kids succeed, it reflects well on us.
However, it does no one any favors for parents to take over these projects. Kids need to learn how to tackle tasks on their own—even if their results aren’t as polished. When we offer assistance, we should ask ourselves if we’re truly helping our children or simply trying to enhance our own image. If it’s the latter, it’s time to step back, allowing our kids to express themselves freely and revel in their own achievements.
As a creative individual, I am particularly sensitive about art projects. Pablo Picasso once said, “All children are artists. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” He was spot on; children have an innate artistic spirit, and it’s our duty to nurture that—not hinder it. This means giving them the freedom to create the messiest, most genuine projects possible, even if those creations are showcased beyond our front door. We should only offer our help when they specifically ask for it.
I’m not naïve enough to think every child will grow up to be the next Picasso. But regardless of their career path, it’s crucial for them to develop their unique style and learn how to think creatively. These skills are invaluable in almost every profession and life situation. Moreover, fostering self-expression is vital, especially in today’s world.
Ultimately, we must make a conscious effort to let our kids be kids. That’s the greatest gift we can provide them—even if it results in a house covered in glue and glitter.
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Summary
It’s clear when parents take over their children’s school projects, which diminishes the genuine creative process. While the urge to ensure our kids impress others is strong, it’s essential to step back and let them express themselves authentically. Nurturing their creativity fosters valuable skills for the future, allowing them to thrive as individuals.