When a new mom cradles her little one for the first time, she’s met with a whirlwind of emotions—relief that pregnancy is over, joy in finally meeting her baby, and a hint of panic. Friends and family have been quick to share their insights ever since she announced her pregnancy. While some advice is well-meaning, it often feels overwhelming. Enter the “pretty lies” we tell to keep the spirits up, even when the reality can be quite different.
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Sleep When the Baby Sleeps
Sure, you could attempt to catch some z’s while the baby naps, but let’s be real. There’s laundry to tackle, a shower to take, or perhaps you just want to savor that leftover pie in peace. In reality, those quiet moments are often filled with thoughts racing through your mind as you check on the baby, hoping they’re still peacefully sleeping—and let’s not forget about that rumbling stomach reminding you to eat! -
Breastfeeding Will Help You Lose the Baby Weight
This one isn’t universally true. While some women might find it easy to shed pounds while breastfeeding, many others find that the cravings kick in like a freight train. For me, nursing turned me into a bottomless pit—chocolate cravings became a daily affair! The truth is that losing that baby weight can take time, and it’s different for everyone. -
Enjoy Every Moment; It Goes So Fast
In retrospect, yes, the first year does fly by, but during those sleepless nights and endless diaper changes, it can feel like an eternity. Between the late-night cries and explosive diaper incidents, it’s hard to appreciate those fleeting moments when you’re in survival mode. Just know that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and that you’re not alone. -
Breastfeeding is an Easy and Beautiful Experience
While breastfeeding is indeed a natural process, it’s often not as seamless as portrayed. Many moms feel pressure to make it look effortless while battling discomfort and learning curves. Every baby is unique, and so is every mother’s experience. If it’s not going as smoothly as you imagined, don’t be discouraged—you’re not alone. -
The First Few Months are the Best
Yes, there are magical moments, like seeing that first smile or watching your baby discover their fingers, but these months can also be incredibly tough. Postpartum struggles are real, and it’s common to feel overwhelmed or anxious. It’s important to remember that it’s okay if you don’t feel like this is the best time of your life; brighter days are ahead. -
It Gets Easier
This is one of those comforting lies that helps keep new moms motivated. The truth is, things change as your baby grows. New challenges arise when they start to walk, talk, or develop their own personalities. It may not get easier, but you will adapt and grow alongside your baby, learning and evolving together.
Ultimately, these “pretty lies” are often just half-truths that help us navigate the challenging yet rewarding journey of motherhood. It’s a beautiful, chaotic ride filled with growth for both you and your little one. For more insights on the journey of motherhood, check out this blog or explore helpful resources at CDC’s pregnancy page. And if you’re looking to expand your family, consider visiting Make a Mom for tips on fertility boosters.
Summary
New motherhood is filled with joy and challenges, and while we share “pretty lies” to encourage new moms, the reality can be quite different. From sleep deprivation to breastfeeding hurdles, it’s important to recognize that every experience is unique. Embrace the journey, and remember you’re not alone in this beautiful mess of motherhood.