Have you ever been driving along, only to have a song on the radio take you back in time, but your kids suddenly decide to make a ruckus? Just the other day, I was driving home with my three preteens after a shopping trip where I indulged them with some fun finds from the Dollar Spot. We spent hours picking out items with their Christmas gift cards, and of course, I treated them to Icees and soft pretzels, striving to be the “fun mom.”
Yet, when Phil Collins’s “Against All Odds” played, and I longed to enjoy the moment, my kids blasted me with complaints about how old-fashioned it was and how they were “suffering” from the music. I was frustrated; I had just navigated the toy section for what felt like forever, and all I wanted was a few minutes of musical bliss. Back in the day, I would have happily distracted myself with their chatter or stories. But now that they’re older, they can keep the noise to a minimum for three minutes, allowing me to enjoy the music.
The days of sacrificing my enjoyment for their whims are behind me. They know I expect them to treat my belongings with respect, and I’m reclaiming the nice things in life.
You Can Enjoy Delicious Food Again
When I buy myself some special treats, like chocolate, I no longer hide them away in secret spots that I’d likely forget. Instead, I leave a playful note for them, and they know that this is my treat. Gone are the days of “What’s mine is yours.” They understand that Mom’s chocolate is off-limits, and I don’t need to sneak bites in the pantry anymore. Sometimes, it feels good to be a little selfish.
Your Wardrobe Can Be Stylish Again
I’ve moved on from purchasing disposable clothing. I’m no longer a human napkin, and it feels great to dress up a bit more now that I’m not chasing after toddlers. Yes, my daughter borrows my clothes, and her friends love playing dress-up, but they know to ask first. There are certain items that remain off-limits because I want them to appreciate and respect things that aren’t theirs.
Your Phone Can Be Yours Again
I used to hand over my phone just to keep my kids occupied or to quiet a meltdown, but those days are over. My device is a valuable tool for work and communication. Besides, they each have their own devices, so there’s no need for them to touch mine.
You Can Enjoy Peaceful Showers
Now, I can take long, relaxing showers without interruptions. My kids understand that when I’m behind closed doors, I’m focusing on myself, and emergencies are the only reason I should be disturbed. After years of sneaking quick showers while making sure they weren’t causing chaos, it’s liberating to have that time back.
Your Home Can Be Tidy Again
When messes happen, my kids are responsible for cleaning them up. They can do their own laundry, pick up after themselves, and understand that if they make a mess, it’s on them to fix it. This helps them learn accountability, and I get to enjoy a cleaner home.
So, while you might feel like “nice things” are a distant memory, know that soon enough, you’ll find joy in those little pleasures again. After years of your kids unintentionally destroying your belongings and your sanity, it’s exhilarating to look forward to a time when they’re more independent and respectful of your things. Yes, we cherish the early years, but it’s also exciting to recognize the growth in our children, allowing us to reclaim parts of our lives that we had set aside.
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