For over a decade, I had the privilege of working as a physical therapist, which meant I encountered a diverse range of seniors. Injuries don’t play favorites, so I met older adults from all walks of life: some were vibrant and healthy, while others faced challenges. They possessed a wealth of life experiences, and as I guided them through exercises and mobility routines, we often engaged in deep conversations about those experiences.
As a younger person, I received a cornucopia of advice on topics ranging from finances to romance. The gems of wisdom I gathered included:
- Travel as much as you can now; once you have kids, those opportunities dwindle.
- Avoid children—they’ll drain your energy.
- Embrace parenthood; it’s the most rewarding journey you’ll embark upon.
- Start saving for retirement now or you might find yourself working well into your golden years.
- But don’t forget to live in the moment—youth is fleeting, so treat yourself now!
- Prioritize your health; you don’t want to end up with a bad back like mine.
- Life is unpredictable; learn to roll with the punches.
Alongside life advice, these seasoned individuals also loved to share insights about their relationships. As a newlywed, I was particularly curious about long-term couples who still seemed to enjoy each other’s company. Their secrets often varied, but some common themes emerged:
- Choose a partner who complements you, even if they’re drastically different.
- Resolve conflicts before bed, even if it’s just with a kiss.
- Physical affection is crucial.
- Emotional support matters immensely.
- Laughter is the cornerstone of a strong relationship.
However, one couple’s advice truly resonated with me. They epitomized #RelationshipGoals, with the gentleman always dressing sharply in a bowtie and suspenders, while his wife laughed genuinely at his every quip. Their connection was palpable, filled with shared glances and inside jokes.
During a session, I asked them how long they had been together. The husband chuckled, “Oh, 30 years! Practically newlyweds!” They both chuckled at the notion, and I inquired about the secret to their enduring partnership. The husband shared, “In my first marriage, I thought I had to be ‘the man,’ making all the decisions. That approach failed. This time, we agreed that she’s the boss, and it works for us!” The warmth and understanding between them were unmistakable.
Reflecting on this delightful exchange recently, I stumbled upon some outdated and sexist advice from Suzanne Venker, who suggested women should adopt a more submissive role in relationships. Let’s take a moment to collectively roll our eyes at that. I’d much rather heed the wisdom of that fabulous couple from a decade ago, whose insights and “never shop for paint together” advice shape my relationship philosophy. And yes, my husband and I are thriving—especially when I remind him of that couple’s wisdom during our occasional disagreements. Sorry, not sorry, Suzanne.
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In summary, while traditional advice may not always resonate, the most empowering insights come from real-life experiences. Embrace the wisdom of those who’ve navigated relationships successfully, and remember that mutual respect and understanding are vital to a thriving partnership.