For the past year, I’ve been navigating an unimaginable journey, waiting for news about my daughter’s health. The medical community had a lot to say—one in a billion genetic mutation, only a handful of cases worldwide, and a prognosis that she might not make it past 15 months. The initial advice was simple: cherish every moment together.
At first, life seemed perfect. I had a wonderful family, a beautiful daughter, and a fulfilling career. It’s astounding how quickly everything can change. One moment, my daughter, Lily, was a typical, joyful 9-month-old, and the next, she stopped crawling. I reassured myself, thinking she was just tired or maybe it was the heat. Friends told me I was overreacting.
However, over the next month, Lily lost her ability to sit independently, roll over, grasp objects, and eventually even hold her head up. By the time she turned 10 months, her motor skills mirrored those of a 2-month-old. An MRI revealed progressive cavitating leukoencephalopathy, indicating severe damage to the white matter in her brain. Doctors suspected a mitochondrial disorder but withheld definitive information until they had a formal diagnosis.
At 13 months, the diagnosis came: multiple mitochondrial dysfunction syndrome 3—a rare condition with only three documented cases. The doctors grimly informed me that her condition would worsen, predicting she would soon lose the ability to chew and swallow, necessitating a feeding tube, followed by a breathing tube, and ultimately, they warned, she would not survive past 15 months.
What Do You Do When Faced with Such Devastating News?
Initially, the weight of despair was overwhelming. You cry, you scream, and you mourn the future you envisioned for your child. It’s essential to allow yourself to feel that pain; it’s a part of your journey. But as you rise from that darkness, you emerge stronger than ever.
You become a fierce advocate for your child, pushing yourself to new limits. The strength of mothers in similar situations is astounding; we are warriors. It’s amazing how precious every moment becomes. You begin to prioritize what truly matters in life, finding humor in situations that once seemed dire. You learn to coexist with grief, which often catches you off guard—like when you glance in the rearview mirror and realize your little one isn’t there, reminding you of the harsh reality that one day, she may truly be gone.
Financial instability often accompanies such a journey. Medical bills can lead to bankruptcy, even in countries with healthcare systems like Canada’s. I had to get creative with my work situation, starting my own business to maintain flexibility while being present for Lily.
In times of crisis, you discover who truly stands by you. Some friends rise to the occasion, while others may fade away, and that’s okay. You begin to focus on those who genuinely care and support you.
Refusing to Accept the Prognosis
What did I choose to do for Lily? I refused to accept the medical prognosis. I was determined not to give up on her. It’s a common story among parents of children with rare diseases—children often defy the odds when given a fighting chance.
Once I learned about “mito,” my scientific background kicked in. I dove into research, advocated for treatments, and reached out to doctors and specialists worldwide.
Today, at 27 months, Lily has made remarkable progress. She has regained head control, can sit up independently for short periods, and even communicates in short phrases. Her favorite words? “I did it!”
While hope and effort don’t guarantee survival, they can provide your child with a fighting chance when others have surrendered. Lily is now surrounded by an incredible team of doctors, therapists, and family who believe in her potential. Instead of waiting for the worst, I choose to celebrate life and the moments we share.
Resources for Support
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In Summary
When confronted with the heart-wrenching reality of a child’s illness, the most important thing is to hold onto hope, advocate tirelessly, and cherish every moment. Life can change in an instant, but it’s how you respond that defines your journey.