You’ve just come back from a whirlwind day in sixth grade, bursting through the door with excitement about slipping into your pajamas and savoring some pizza (a thought I often share around 3 p.m. myself!). Then, it’s time for FaceTiming your friends. As I watch you revel in these moments with your closest pals, filled with laughter, sleepovers, and endless chats, I can’t help but wish for you to cherish this phase of your life for as long as possible.
As you transition through high school and into college, hold tight to your old friends while also embracing new connections. Go on adventures, explore new places, and engage in late-night discussions about your dreams and aspirations. Be there for each other through heartbreaks and offer support when life’s pressures seem overwhelming.
Above all, I urge you not to rush into settling down, finding “the one,” or starting a family. Society may impose timelines, but remember, there’s no deadline for when you should reach certain milestones. Don’t let anyone pressure you into these decisions until you’re truly ready.
Before you embark on that journey, I encourage you to experience living alone for a while. This is a precious opportunity for self-discovery, even if you find yourself head over heels in love at a young age. My intention isn’t to dissuade you from pursuing romance, but to emphasize the importance of understanding yourself first.
I know that everyone’s circumstances vary based on timing and finances. I’m not sharing this advice because I rushed into marriage, but because I did spend a significant amount of time on my own before your father and I took that step. Living alone for over three years allowed me to grow in ways I hadn’t imagined. It was transformative, and I look back on that time with fondness and no regrets.
When you live by yourself, you have the space to learn what you truly desire in life. You find peace and clarity, making it easier to identify what aligns with your values and what doesn’t. You become adept at navigating relationships, allowing only the positive influences into your space while shutting down any negativity or drama.
During this time, you’ll learn practical skills too, like maintaining your car or managing a budget. When you’re responsible for your own finances, you quickly grasp the value of hard work. There’s no roommate to rely on; it’s just you. This independence is empowering and builds your confidence.
You’ll also become comfortable being alone with your thoughts. While solitude can sometimes feel lonely, it teaches you how to find joy within yourself and embrace your individuality (yes, that sometimes means dancing in your living room in your pajamas with a bowl of Cheetos!).
After sharing a bathroom with siblings and then with a multitude of dorm mates, having your own space is nothing short of blissful. You can keep it as tidy or as chaotic as you like, and there’s a liberating sense of control.
You’ll emerge stronger, more independent, and better equipped to handle challenges. While it’s perfectly okay to seek help, you’ll also learn to navigate situations on your own—especially when it’s late at night and others are asleep. Each obstacle you face will bolster your confidence and resilience, proving to you just how capable you truly are.
So, while I won’t dictate your journey, I genuinely hope you take this advice to heart. You won’t regret it, and who knows, maybe I’ll get to visit you sometime for a little fun of my own (I’d love to relive some of those carefree days with you!).
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In summary, living alone before settling down can be a transformative experience that fosters self-discovery and confidence. Embrace this time in your life, as it will shape your future relationships and help you understand your true self.