Last week, I heard six words that struck me like a thunderbolt: “You’re just like your mother.” It’s remarkable how a single sentence can shake your entire existence.
Growing up, my parents were never married, and I was brought up by a single mother. We moved around frequently and faced some tough living conditions. While we had the support of my grandparents, aunts, and uncles, the saying “it takes a village” held true for me, but it was more challenging than most would imagine.
Yes, we relied on government assistance and often had very little to show for it. I vividly remember the embarrassment of using our “different money” in stores, and I stood out among the “normal” kids from “normal” families. I watched my mother struggle day in and day out, enduring physical and emotional turmoil. I held her hand 16 years ago today, as we faced the heartbreaking reality of losing my stepfather to suicide.
There were countless moments when I wished for a different childhood. I longed for an easier life, free from the heavy burdens of trauma and pain. But as I grew older, I came to appreciate those experiences — all of them.
It was our struggles that taught me gratitude for even the smallest blessings. The pain we endured fostered my ability to empathize with others. It was in those tough moments that my faith deepened. The adversity I faced ignited a desire within me to dream big and strive for more. Those years of fear instilled in me a fierce work ethic. I realized early on that I would have to fight for every opportunity, with nothing to fall back on.
I owe my success to my mother. It’s her unwavering strength and determination that shaped who I am today and who I aspire to be for my children. Regardless of our past or current relationship, she will always hold a special place in my heart.
So, to the one who called me “pathetic,” let me clarify: my mother is anything but that. She is resilient, she is enduring, and she has always prioritized my well-being. It’s crucial to recognize and honor all mothers — these remarkable women who do their best with what they have. They may not be perfect, but they are certainly not pathetic.
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In summary, words can have a profound impact on us, but they can also remind us of our strength and resilience. Embracing our past can help us forge a brighter future.