As contemporary mothers, I often feel we put too much pressure on ourselves. For me, the so-called “Best Mom” title was never in the cards. Instead, I had the “Okayest Mom” in the universe, who approached parenting with a carefree attitude that defied all conventional wisdom about motherhood.
Last holiday season, my mom looked at my sister and me and quipped, “I raised two strong, independent women, though I never intended to.” Oh, how we can relate, Mom!
Yet, despite her chaotic approach, she still expects the royal treatment on Mother’s Day. Because of her, it’s worth reflecting on all the “okayest” moms who shaped us; we could all use a little boost in self-esteem to help us navigate our choices.
You Don’t Chain-Smoke
When was the last time you glanced around your home and thought it resembled a dive bar because of smoking? Never? Well, that’s a win. It means you likely refrain from chain-smoking in front of your kids or at home. Those sugary snacks your little ones indulge in? They suddenly seem much more manageable.
You Use Kitchen Utensils for Their Intended Purpose
The “Wooden Spoon” was practically a family member in my childhood. Sure, I tried to hide it when my mom was upset, but your children probably only associate it with baking cookies, not discipline.
You Prioritize Car Seats
In a hilarious twist, my mom once took me on a trip in her tiny two-seater car, where I ended up in the hatchback for the drive home. Nowadays, we appreciate those car seat guidelines that keep our kids safe until they hit their teens.
You Favor Fresh Food Over Processed Meals
At nine, my mother put me on a SlimFast regimen, thinking it would help me avoid bullying. The irony? I was just short, not overweight! Meanwhile, we stress about breast milk versus formula as if it were the end of the world.
You Can’t Imagine Abandoning Your Kids
The moment I announced my pregnancy, my mom swiftly left Pennsylvania for New Jersey. Nothing says “I’m here for you” quite like a quick exit! She claimed it was unfortunate timing, but I’ve forgiven her. The attachment parenting style is not something our “okayest” moms embraced.
You Have a Support System
Once, during a tough time as a new mother, my mom was concerned enough to drive two hours just to drop off her antidepressants before leaving. Give your kids an extra hug today; they deserve it.
Reflecting on my mom as “The Okayest Mom on the Planet,” she took pride in her unique approach. Without her, my life might resemble a low-budget film that no one would want to watch. She filled every story with humor, and even the messiest decisions turned into valuable lessons.
Let’s aim not for the title of “Best Mom” but rather for the glory of being the “okayest.” Happy Mother’s Day, Mom! Your card is on the way!
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Summary
This article celebrates mothers who defy conventional standards, highlighting the unique qualities that make them special. It emphasizes the humorous and relatable experiences of parenting, encouraging a shift in focus from perfection to authenticity.